Impotency...At 17?

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iamonback

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So I can't believe it. I really can't believe it. I had the worst experience of my life, and who better to share it with than people who will only make fun of me on the internet, right?

So I've been chasing this girl around, blah blah blah. We've been hanging out for a while now, and I guess she was all worked up. She wanted it, and I'm experiencing a stage of sexual depravity. It's been a while.

So we're getting ready to do all of this, and I'm having trouble keeping a hard-on. This isn't the first time this has happened, it's just, I made it work before in a quicker timeframe. No lolli-gagging(no pun intended) around, just satisfy her first, then get it up and get it in.

But I can't get a full-on boner, and at it's hardest point to get the rubber on, it limps out on me.

At this point, it's safe to say that this has been the most embarrassing moment of my fucking life. A) Best looking girl I've been with in a long time. B) She's practically squirming due to arousal. C) I CAN'T FUCKING GET WOOD!

Now, you may laugh. You make joke. But I know someone out there knows how much this sucks. Like, I'm supposed to be at the peak of my hormonal rampage, and I can't get it up?

So after a long debate on the drive home if I wanted to park my truck into a telephone pole, I did some research on the interwebs. Apparently, this is unheard of in males under the age of 40. That's the sample space of most surveys I found...40-65. But apparently, impotency can be caused by smoking cigarettes(been a steady, pack-a-day smoker for about 4 years now), habitual use of Marijuana(I plead the fifth), extensive stress, and, oddly enough, pent-up anger. These 4 things apply directly to my person, and these are all either habitual, or psychological.

So, if not for my own healths sake, is this when I throw in the towel on recreational habits and go talk to a shrink? Because if I ever have to go through the depression; the anxiety; the sheer fucking embarrassment and 100% lack of self esteem of this situation every time I take my pants off, I'm gonna be living a terrible life.


NOTE: I know someone has to be thinking "Oh, you're 17, you don't need to be doing that nonsense anyway". Save the mom-speech for a kid who isn't corrupted yet. I'm looking for advice on where to go from here, and how to cope with this easier.
 
Been there, done that. Stress is a big part of it, a HUGE part of it. It basically kills any would be wood. Pot is a serious boner kill, too. If you want to get it up, smoke that shit less regularly. Third, one time does not mean Impotence. Just get some rest, eat right, stress less, and get it up. Seriously.

You didn't say, but, if you were drunk at the time, I'd say you should quit. Not the least because you're underage, and it's retarded behavior, but because it completely kills the ability to get a hard-on.

Smoke less. For the love of god, quit. I don't know how anyone of our generation can possibly think smoking is an ok idea. It kills you eventually, but in the meantime it will settle for restricting your blood flow, and turning your skin into leather.
 
I have heard of this, it's not normal I suppose, but it's not the end of the world. No one can keep an erection indefinitely, if you're taking a break from stimulation it's going to be a little harder (no pun intended) to get it back, and if you have this problem it may be even more so. Just make sure you're getting stimulated and like the next person said stop drinking/smoking. I've never personally experienced any problem when drunk/smoking, but it definitely isn't easier either.

First you got to know, that it's not the end of the world like I said. If you're dating this chick, then don't worry, this shit happens, she'll understand. If this was a random girl, whatever, if she decides to tell people just say that you lost your boner when you saw her penis.
 
Oh, and sex is not that important. Sure, your cock not working may suck, but it is by no means "then end of the world." You will find in due time, that there are many activities which are not only more fulfilling than sex, but yes, even more fun.

Seriously, getting your dick wet is not the end all and the be all of awesomeness.
 
If it makes you feel better, when a man is having technical difficulties in bed it doesn't make women feel all that great either. So while you were feeling embarrassed she might of been feeling a little insecure herself.
 
Really sorry to hear about that, necro.

Asides from times where I was falling-down-drunk, this has happened to me once before. When I was nineteen or twenty, there were four or five days where I couldn't make it work. At the time I was smoking tons of weed and I was heavy into a few other things, work was ten times as stressful as it used to be, due to a promotion, and I was pissing away my grades in college, due in no small part to work, basically, it was crunch-time for my nerves. Oh, and to top it all off, I was dating a loudmouth Italian girl who would say such supportive things as "What are you, a fucking faggot?!" and the like. It was fucking mortifying. After the second time, I was at the library for hours with my trusty Mead and Bic combo taking notes. Fuck, I didn't even take notes in school (shitty grade reason #2), but this warranted it more than any class ever did. I felt like this was my personal end-game.

Stress, buddy, look at your stress levels first. Get good sleep. Try to cut down on smokes and give weed a rest for a little bit. You should be good to go.

Or...
 
your cock is going to fall off!! :eek:


As much as the others has said that it propably is(stress etc), and as thurely you've written your post. I still wonder, are you able to spank the monkey? (no this is not a joke) Because if you can then the problem can be the girl/drunkeness etc...while if you really can't do that then you should look into what the problem might be (I'd say smoking, anger, etc)
 
It happens. Happened to me a time or two as well. I just laughed, said 'looks like he's sleeping. Let's see if he comes back in a few minutes' and went down on her until the little guy woke up.

I had the opposite problem a little while back. I couldn't come for the life of me. Just wouldn't happen. Over the course of a month we did it at least 40 times and I got off twice. It was frustrating.
 
You have gotten some good advice here. Now go talk to a doctor! You can call a doctor also. Just talk with one. He/she may or may not say what has already been said, but you have to be honest with the dr if not he can't help you! You may have an underlining issue here. After all you are only 17.
 
Serious question here. Do ya have probs rubbing one out? If that works for ya, then it would tell me it's a mental/anxiety thing. If that dont work, then it could be medical.

Might point ya in the right direction when it comes time to seek help.
 
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