snugglepot
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disputes. Can you advise. Plz? Six months ago, I found myself wound up in a situation of drugs and a life so far from what mine should really be.
When trying to leave this person, for weeks on after, he was consistently harassing me through emails, texts, phone call and abusive messages and calls.
He tries everything.
He would even come to my school, sit on my car for an hour and a half until I had finished, waiting, leaving me no choice but to have contact with him.
I dont want any contact with this man. None what so ever.
That part of my life was so dark and morbid for me, and I am still recuperating today.
Im now in a better environment and am working towards very good things.
I surround my self with positive like minded successful people and have completely cut off from the crowd, regardless of how much he had tried to remain contact, or his lack of understanding on why i would not want to be friends with such a person has bewildered me immensely.
This person makes me sick.
Who i was when i was with him makes me sick.
My life is different now.
And I wish to let go of this time for good.
There is one conflicting problem with this as to why I have not been able to, and this has old a hold on me emotionally, and physically.
During this time. I owed him money.
We went on a house boat trip with others in which at the time, he had payed for with the arrangement fro me to compensate.
This equated to around 500 dollars in cost....In my notes looking back over this today, I have seen where I have noted this, both figures state I have made a payment of 30 dollars, although the two final figures are different.
One states the renaming amount that i Owe is 585, the other states 470.
I also remember there being two occasions where we bought food, and I did not pay.
I remember, at the time, I estimated as best as i could to work out how much I owed him in he fairest way possible with regarding this food, and i can remember a figure of around 135 Dollars coming to mind. I am not certain.
I also during this time, was using a lot of drugs.
He was a drug dealer, and had told me on many different occasions when i had something that i did not have to pay for this. It was only the things that I did ask for that I did have to pay for.
This was included in the 500 that I mentioned at the start concerning the amounts spent on the house boat.
During this time, and almost everyday if not very frequently for a duration of 5 approx months, I was smoking a lot of marijuana. He was also dealing this, and at first when he was, I remember having this too was not an issue.
Although towards the end, he did stop dealing this and was then resorted to having to buy this, in which he did, and i did not due to my financial position.
During this time, I had an injury, I was on crutches, and during this time, In hindsight, as to where I am now and what I know now, I find this man to be of a very unstable, manipulating, and mind controlling character with terrible emotionally abusive tendencies. At the time i was much weaker, more vulnerable, injured, unwell, in a very lonely and critical point of my life, and extremely insecure resulting in his behavior methods and tendencies to affect me more.
I could honestly say, with having to complete my first year of a bachelor degree, recovering from my injury, and other significant emotional problems at peak due to a difficult time, Having faced homelessness while undergoing this study - having fell into a trap of drugs and a very dark world, only wanting to remove myself, and to focus solely on improving my life, this man, even after being explained this in every way possible that any one human being could explain - did not understand, or comprehend, and continued to harass me, only making my life harder, constantly pulling be back to those times that i was desperately trying to repair and put behind me and get away from so much!. I can honestly say, for the first time In my life, I almost hate this person.
I have never hated anyone or felt so immensely raw towards someone's character and cruelty.
I can not believe how much awfulness and unnecessary pain he continued to put me through.
He called me fifty times in one day, And when i spoke to him once, telling him. I don't want to be with you, stop calling, he told me that he was hurt becasue he loved me, and that it seemed his reason behind revenge was because of this.
He was cruel and he was nasty, and he could not accept that i di not want him or anything to do with him for that matter, and that you can not force some one to be with you.
This man is 27 years old.
This period of my life has definitely lefts its mark, and had tarnished me for some time to the point of this and many other things leading me to now hibernation after hospitalization, and all my focus is on now, is the positivity of possibilities and change when in difficult times, and how one can ultimately use a negative experience and turn it into a positive one.
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It seems yahoo answers has cut off some of my story by mistake - so I just want to add here. My problem here is knowing how much to pay him back, as we disagree. and how to negotiate this without any further pain.
I've told him I don't want to see him again, and he wont listen. It;s as though it never gets heard, and he continues to pester me.
How many times does one need to be told. Really.
I want to know if I should give him and extra 200 for all the weed I smoked too. And give him the money for food too.
The total if going by owing him 470 with the food and an extra 200 dollars comes to 800.
The total if going by owing him 585 plus food plus an extra 200 for weed comes to around 900 - what do I do.
What is sufficient in this case given the circumstances? how much is enough?
When trying to leave this person, for weeks on after, he was consistently harassing me through emails, texts, phone call and abusive messages and calls.
He tries everything.
He would even come to my school, sit on my car for an hour and a half until I had finished, waiting, leaving me no choice but to have contact with him.
I dont want any contact with this man. None what so ever.
That part of my life was so dark and morbid for me, and I am still recuperating today.
Im now in a better environment and am working towards very good things.
I surround my self with positive like minded successful people and have completely cut off from the crowd, regardless of how much he had tried to remain contact, or his lack of understanding on why i would not want to be friends with such a person has bewildered me immensely.
This person makes me sick.
Who i was when i was with him makes me sick.
My life is different now.
And I wish to let go of this time for good.
There is one conflicting problem with this as to why I have not been able to, and this has old a hold on me emotionally, and physically.
During this time. I owed him money.
We went on a house boat trip with others in which at the time, he had payed for with the arrangement fro me to compensate.
This equated to around 500 dollars in cost....In my notes looking back over this today, I have seen where I have noted this, both figures state I have made a payment of 30 dollars, although the two final figures are different.
One states the renaming amount that i Owe is 585, the other states 470.
I also remember there being two occasions where we bought food, and I did not pay.
I remember, at the time, I estimated as best as i could to work out how much I owed him in he fairest way possible with regarding this food, and i can remember a figure of around 135 Dollars coming to mind. I am not certain.
I also during this time, was using a lot of drugs.
He was a drug dealer, and had told me on many different occasions when i had something that i did not have to pay for this. It was only the things that I did ask for that I did have to pay for.
This was included in the 500 that I mentioned at the start concerning the amounts spent on the house boat.
During this time, and almost everyday if not very frequently for a duration of 5 approx months, I was smoking a lot of marijuana. He was also dealing this, and at first when he was, I remember having this too was not an issue.
Although towards the end, he did stop dealing this and was then resorted to having to buy this, in which he did, and i did not due to my financial position.
During this time, I had an injury, I was on crutches, and during this time, In hindsight, as to where I am now and what I know now, I find this man to be of a very unstable, manipulating, and mind controlling character with terrible emotionally abusive tendencies. At the time i was much weaker, more vulnerable, injured, unwell, in a very lonely and critical point of my life, and extremely insecure resulting in his behavior methods and tendencies to affect me more.
I could honestly say, with having to complete my first year of a bachelor degree, recovering from my injury, and other significant emotional problems at peak due to a difficult time, Having faced homelessness while undergoing this study - having fell into a trap of drugs and a very dark world, only wanting to remove myself, and to focus solely on improving my life, this man, even after being explained this in every way possible that any one human being could explain - did not understand, or comprehend, and continued to harass me, only making my life harder, constantly pulling be back to those times that i was desperately trying to repair and put behind me and get away from so much!. I can honestly say, for the first time In my life, I almost hate this person.
I have never hated anyone or felt so immensely raw towards someone's character and cruelty.
I can not believe how much awfulness and unnecessary pain he continued to put me through.
He called me fifty times in one day, And when i spoke to him once, telling him. I don't want to be with you, stop calling, he told me that he was hurt becasue he loved me, and that it seemed his reason behind revenge was because of this.
He was cruel and he was nasty, and he could not accept that i di not want him or anything to do with him for that matter, and that you can not force some one to be with you.
This man is 27 years old.
This period of my life has definitely lefts its mark, and had tarnished me for some time to the point of this and many other things leading me to now hibernation after hospitalization, and all my focus is on now, is the positivity of possibilities and change when in difficult times, and how one can ultimately use a negative experience and turn it into a positive one.
Things a
It seems yahoo answers has cut off some of my story by mistake - so I just want to add here. My problem here is knowing how much to pay him back, as we disagree. and how to negotiate this without any further pain.
I've told him I don't want to see him again, and he wont listen. It;s as though it never gets heard, and he continues to pester me.
How many times does one need to be told. Really.
I want to know if I should give him and extra 200 for all the weed I smoked too. And give him the money for food too.
The total if going by owing him 470 with the food and an extra 200 dollars comes to 800.
The total if going by owing him 585 plus food plus an extra 200 for weed comes to around 900 - what do I do.
What is sufficient in this case given the circumstances? how much is enough?