I'm too stupid

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B Dawgg

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I fucking HATE hearing people say that. A typical convo:

them:"I want to do this."
Me: "Why don't you?"
Them:"I'm too stuipd to do it."
Me: "No you aren't. You just lack the motivation."
Them: "Nope, I'm just too stupid." Or, "I had motivation once."

I'm so tired of this conversation. I wish people would see their potential in life. Even if you aren't smart, you can be good at something. You can work hard to do what you want to do. You may not be the very best at it, but if it makes you happy, why not try? I hate when people give up on themselves in the name of stupidity. Maybe they are stupid then if they can't see that they have the potential to do what they want to do. Maybe they are dumb if they can't figure out that it might take them more work, but it will be worth ever trying day. What has our world come to that someone can say, I'm too stupid, and get off the hook? Well, they can't with me.
 
That's no excuse. They need to figure it out and stop feeling bad for themselves. Society won't carry a person because they're mopeing.
 
I understand, Mags. It troubles me to hear people sell themselves short. I agree that in most cases, people claim they are stupid when they actually mean lazy. There are a few ways to look at it. When someones gives up on a quest, they fail themselves. However, some tasks are harder than others. Similarly, some people have more drive than others. If noone ever gave up on anything, then instances of great accomplishment would go unnoticed.
Try to look on the bright side. If you see other people giving up too easily, then relative to them, you must be highly motivated. If that is the case, you should foresee yourself doing legendary heroic things.
On a related note, when I was in the military, one of my jobs was assigning tasks to my soldiers. I had a few really-lazy bastids that would commonly plead ingorance in the face of recieving a job they didn't want to do. It pissed me off, because A) it disrupted my mission plan B) they were lying: they knew what they doing, but they were just lazy. The only stupidity they displayed was trying to bullshit me. They should have known that I would assign a replacement task that was far worse than the original tasking.
 
I don't expect society to carry me. I don't expect society to do anything for me. They never have in the past, why should they give a fuck in the future?

You're right. Maybe eventually I will find something that I enjoy doing. Right now I work with glass. It's not a job that I hate, but it's not one that I enjoy. And no, I don't intend to do it for the rest of my life either.

At least my boss is funny.:happysad:
 
Well see, the problem with me is that I know I'm smart but I'm also extremely lazy and unmotivated. I always end up thinking about better ways i could be spending my time. Hopefully when I have a family to provide for, that'll change but for now...I'm enjoying being lazy = ]
 
When folks say stuff like that, it pretty much becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I got a fantastic job offer a few years ago in a city across the state. I had one week to get my stuff packed, find a new place to live, and have everything ready to go by Monday. I was telling a friend about the offer, and moaned, "I can't possibly get everything done in a week." Her answer? "If you think you can't, that's what will happen." It made me reconsider my attitude, and I got everything done in time.

So, the next time someone starts saying, "I'm too stupid," agree with them.
 
(This is all in response to your statement about figuring out what they want. It's just not that simple. I do agree with the "I'm too stupid" response though.)

I hate to say this, but the grass is always greener. I don't believe anyone is 100% happy with what they do in life, or where they are. Even if they love their job, there will be something they could do but haven't in some other aspect that would make them feel more complete or happier.

I'm one of those people who, still at 36 years of age, have no clue what "occupation" would most fulfill me. I know what I'm good at, but that doesn't necessarily mean I would enjoy working in it for the rest of my life. The fact is most people have many interests and to narrow them to one and pursue it in a field is difficult, and even if they can it doesn't mean once they do, they won't wonder if they wouldn't have been happier in the other areas.

For me, I would never make my family suffer at all so I could, at this stage in my life, pursue any dream. I consider it selfish. Things happened when I was younger (marriage and children) that just took up my time when I would have otherwise pursued some lifelong goal/s. I have to watch my sister's family all suffer and do without so her husband can pursue his phd at 44 years of age. They have had to move 3 times in the past 6 years and uproot the kids and slowly downgrade their living arrangements so much it sickens me. What they are putting up with so he can live out some late idea of having "Dr." infront of his name is just complete BS. I know some people can eventually pursue dreams that have been shelved for years, but it is extremely rare and the conditions to make it happen are even more rare.

Anyway, as I said, it's just not a matter of figuring out what you want in life. Hell, I ask myself that everyday, and the fact is, I don't know. I'm happy with my family and home. I definitely NEED a job (still looking) but it probably won't end up being what makes me "happy" beyond the fact the money will improve our lives tremendously that I will end up being happy. I don't think I would even begin to think of myself and pursue anything on a personal level until the kids are grown, then I'll probably be too damned tired and old to do it anyway. I'll probably be happy that I was able to raise my kids and see each of them turn into their own person to even notice it. Life has a funny way of taking place while you're out trying to plan it. ;)
 
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