i'm tired of arguing, what can i do?

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Yesterday he call me stupid and curse me out cause i picked him up 4 minutes late.
my husband and i have 3 kids, we been together for 7 years our relationship was never good, based on arguments. he drinks alcohol, and becomes a tad aggressive, i'm so tired because we argue almost every day, he doesn't ever say i love you and i feel so lonely and depress. what can i do? he doesn't wanna change...ever.
 
I'll avoid asking why you married him to begin with (and had 3 kids with him) if your relationship was never good.

As to what you can do, tell him what you want & need. If he loves you, he will try to meet those needs / wants to the best of his ability. If he is a selfish loser who simply doesn't care, he won't change. In that case, divorce him and make him pay child support. Life is WAY to short to do otherwise. It might be an adustment for you and your children but thats the nature of the beast.
 
Tell him to shut the f*** up and he is being a stupid little b****. LMAO. Seriously I would say that and if he started to cruse me more I'd flip him to bird and tell him to get the hell out the car and walk home. If he doesnt get out park to the side and walk home yourself with the keys in your pocket. Or drop him off and leave him there infront of the house. There is no way he should be talking to you like that unless he wants to be talked back like that.

Pore his alcohol out tell him its not allowed near your children of in the house. If he want to drink do it somewhere else.

If my husband and I argue real bad I tell him" this is why people get divorced if you want to head that way kep fucking talking if not sit down and shut the hell up so we can work this out" then we take turns saying our sides.
 
i have the same problem but i have been married for 20 yrs and it just gets worse, leave now while your still young. dont be like me and waste half of your life being miserable and then finally realizing that you gotta go. your kids will be fine, if you stay they will just become miserable with all the fighting and arguing.
 
i have the same problem but i have been married for 20 yrs and it just gets worse, leave now while your still young. dont be like me and waste half of your life being miserable and then finally realizing that you gotta go. your kids will be fine, if you stay they will just become miserable with all the fighting and arguing.
 
decide that you have had enough and get out of a bad thing-
there is help out there for you and hopefully in time there is someone who can help with you low self esteem issues- you have those if you let a jerk like this ruin your life-and if it has never been a good marriage,why stay?
the kids are no excuse for staying anymore-
 
In your current situation I'd say focus on your children and try to make some friends in your neighborhood. You may want to get some sort of part time job, even if its babysitting so you have some money to stash aside.
When he isn't around listen to music and sing and dance. It'll help you fight your depression and make you feel better.
Also it takes two to argue, so just do not answer him. If he hits you, I'd leave or get a paper trail going with some police reports. Then perhaps he'll see the need to change. Love is hard at times. Good luck. ( honestly he probably loves his booze and that's it- sorry)
 
In your current situation I'd say focus on your children and try to make some friends in your neighborhood. You may want to get some sort of part time job, even if its babysitting so you have some money to stash aside.
When he isn't around listen to music and sing and dance. It'll help you fight your depression and make you feel better.
Also it takes two to argue, so just do not answer him. If he hits you, I'd leave or get a paper trail going with some police reports. Then perhaps he'll see the need to change. Love is hard at times. Good luck. ( honestly he probably loves his booze and that's it- sorry)
 
decide that you have had enough and get out of a bad thing-
there is help out there for you and hopefully in time there is someone who can help with you low self esteem issues- you have those if you let a jerk like this ruin your life-and if it has never been a good marriage,why stay?
the kids are no excuse for staying anymore-
 
decide that you have had enough and get out of a bad thing-
there is help out there for you and hopefully in time there is someone who can help with you low self esteem issues- you have those if you let a jerk like this ruin your life-and if it has never been a good marriage,why stay?
the kids are no excuse for staying anymore-
 
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