Im sick of my mother complaining about my father behind his back (divorced)?

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Illiana Garcia

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"Your father is a nasty bastard"
"He greedy and won't give me my f***ing money"
"He's a pig"
"He's a son of a b***h"
"He deserves to die a painful death"

I want her to stop mouthing off about my father. He's the ONLY parent I feel some sort of attachment to (believe me about this, she was in a near death situation and I didn't feel any empathy)

She's not the type that would benefit from me kindly sitting down to have a word with so I can express my discomfort.
 
I'd say even if she won't benefit from you sitting her down, still do it at first so you show that you still respect her. Then, if she still doesn't get it, then be confrontational. Don't be afraid to call her out on it when she says it. She has to know that this isn't right at all. If there's any way that you can live with your dad, that may be better for you as well.
 
Say '' Mother, i know you dont love him or like him but you know.. i do, so can you please stop complaining at me, maybe move on''

:)

She swears alot.. ask can you move in with your dad :)
 
Well if you don't feel you can sit down and talk to her then there's not much you can do except turn the other cheek and let it go over her head when shes mouthing off about your father. It can be hard when too people go through a divorce especially if it was on bad terms and even more so if there are children involved. There may be things that had taken place or during the divorce that you didn't witness or understand which is why your mother is so harsh on your father. However on the other hand she shouldn't be saying such things to you or in front of you when you obviously still see and love your father. The only other suggestion i could make would be to write your mother a letter to try and explain how it makes you feel this will allow you to get your true feelings across without having her interupt. If your not comfortable with that either your simply going to have to ignore her comments and maintain the peace as you lashing out will only make her worse or make her take it out on your father. I know its hard but you have to stay strong. Good Luck :) x
 
tell her to find someone else to rant at for awhile or tell her to write down her feelings. that is how my parents are. I was so sick of it that I just left the house and didn't come back until they worked something out that was invovling me.
 
You need to find the strength to just tell her that you din't want to hear it. She needs to understand that it is only pushing you further away from her.
 
Er.. Ask if she could just stopping about him completely. Or ask if she could stop talking about him in such a manner. Say that you don't like hearing negative things about your father. That's the best thing you could do.
 
every time she starts talking like that just leave the room or turn the radeo or tv up to block her out. tell her you don't wanna hear it and tell her to call someone who cares. Or just call ur dad and ask him if it's possible to live with him-i think once u turn 12 or 14 u get that decision to make.
 
If she is not the type to talk then write her a long letter, tell her what you told us. You need to let her know that it hurts you terrible when she talks bad about your dad. One thing about a letter is that she will hear you. Leave her alone to read it so she has time to really think about your words and feelings. Don't hold back anything you feel. I wouldn't suggest putting her down in the letter or that will just piss her off right off the bat. Just write about your pain in all of this and the love you have for BOTH parents...Hope this helps...Stay Strong~~
 
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