I'm scared.. My boyfriend is confessing *10 points*?

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CutiePrincess

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We were talking about his trip to Florida and how not seeing him/talking to him for 2 weeks might be a life changer, where we wouldn't have the same feelings as before.. So all i know from his past is that his ex girlfriend broke up with him because of not seeing him for long because she went to Europe and never spoke him for 3 weeks. and he brought that up when he said "i hope that doesn't happen because i don't want you to go through the same thing i did" and i told him " i didn't like him talking about his past" and he said "i'm sorry but I just look back at it sometimes" and i asked "good memories, and he says "sometimes, but not always and I experience deja vu and remember stuff from the past" I ask him " if he's still in love with her " and he says "no, im not. I am not in love with her, and not anyone else except you. You're the only different one in every way. I hope you know that. I love you sooo much and i love you more than anyone"

I know, it seems like he's confessed and convinced some part of me that he truly does love me, but i still struggle with his past. I know i shouldn't because the past is the past, but it keeps haunting me over and over again... he goes to school with his ex girlfriend and at one point i saw them smiling, talking to each other. It seriously made me thing they might still work, but she has a bf. but i don't think it really matters if my boyfriend still loves her... should i just let go? or confess about how I feel? I mean, he even said "good memories with her".... maybe he feels nostalgic whenever he sees her.. please help me..., ive been struggling with this situation even since we were together.. it hinges us from flourishing our relationship..
2/9? he's with me. -_-
 
I have good memories with some people that I never want to see again. Think of it this way. If he still loved her, would he have confessed to you? And lots of guys have friends which happen to be girls. He had a good time with her, and he still likes to think back on it but never wants it again. It's like graduating from school. Loads of good times you never would have missed, but you never want to go back there again. Express how you feel with him because if he's gone for a long time, if you don't remind him how you feel you might lose him.
 
dont be a jealous be*itch its very unattractive
the best thing to do is act confident like it doesn't bug you and look sexyy as f*ck
until you have proof cool your jets, cause it will push him away
 
Here's the thing, if he was still in love with her he would most likely be with her. Guys are pretty simple and most of the time they are pretty upfront. If your guy is constantly telling you that you are the one he wants to be with and nothing can get in the way of that, then there is all that needs to be said. All you can do is take his word for it. And yeah I'm sure he had some pretty "good memories" with her, but he's making new memories now that he's with you. They're just memories, and they may talk and reminisce, but more than likely that's as far as it'll ever get. Love is a scary thing, but you just have to trust him. Trust is the biggest factor in relationships.
 
Well, from personal experience, I think that you should talk to him about it. Because there shouldn't be a reason why he can't call and talk to you. It doesn't matter if he's in Europe, they have phone cards for anywhere. It doesn't matter if he's at school, he isn't going all day. So I think he used the " We can't talk for 2 weeks " as an excuse. So you should ask him questions. It's best to have an honest relationship. And just be really honest with him and say " I just want to know the truth " and just talk it out. I hope this helps (: And you should've mentioned how long you guys had been together because that would've helped what I said also!
 
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