I'm muslim and i have a question on my culture...HELP?

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Chakula bora

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Well kindly ask your mum or dad to explain to you why shouldnt hug the other person. what i know is that if you have been engaged to marry someone else you cannot do such. well but that is from very very strict muslim faith so kindly ask from especially female muslim teachers they will give you the correct facts.
All the best
 
ok so theres this guy at my school who i liked last year( and still do a little) and i used to hug him everyday and i told him how i liked him but couldn't date....

this year, i learned a lot more from my culture, i told him at the begginging of the year that i wasn't aloud to hug him nor touch him anymore...

he lasts so long without hugging me and then hugs me from behind(after i escaped the first try of his) today and says that he wants to hug me anyways.

I want to know if its ok, since he doesn't belive it (christan) and i do.

he said it was ok but i want to know the truth.

is it wrong for him to touch me as it is wrong for me to touch him?


I"M CONFUSED CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN??? gonk


3nodding thank you
i dont get it why are you guys calling me a troll? what is a troll?
 
I think hugging is ok but if it's going to lead to something else (sex) you should stop JESUS LOVES YOU!!!!
 
You've managed to convince yourself with no evidence that the natural thoughts and feelings you have are to be repressed and avoided because of your particular flavor of religion.

If you really believe deep down that acting on urges that have been instinctively given to you are wrong, then I'm afraid you will be setting yourself up for a lifetime of self-hatred, guilt, fear, and confusion because man-made beliefs have convinced you for your own good that touching is a crime.

I believe you wish to be happy, and happiness would be a hug.

Best of luck to you.
 
is it wrong for him to touch me as it is wrong for me to touch him?
sure yes
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Shaking hands with a non-maham woman
I would like a detailed answer on the ruling on a man shaking hands with a woman, and the views of the four imams and the majority of scholars on that.

Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:

It is not permissible for a man who believes in Allaah and His Messenger to put his hand in the hand of a women who is not permissible for him or who is not one of his mahrams. Whoever does that has wronged himself (i.e., sinned).

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.

This hadeeth alone is sufficient to deter and to instill the obedience required of us by Allaah, because it implies that touching women may lead to temptation and immorality.

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When the believing women migrated to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), they would be tested in accordance with the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

‘O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bay‘ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse’

[al-Mumtahanah 60:12]

‘Aa’ishah said: Whoever among the believing women agreed to that had passed the test, and when the women agreed to that, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to them: “Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’ No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman, rather they would give their oath of allegiance with words only.” And ‘Aa’ishah said: “By Allaah, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) only took the oath of allegiance from the women in the manner prescribed by Allaah, and the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman. When he had taken their oath of allegiance he would say, ‘I have accepted your oath of allegiance verbally.’”

(narrated by Muslim, 1866)

It was narrated from ‘Urwah that ‘Aa’ishah told him about the women’s oath of allegiance: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched any woman with his hand. He would explain to the woman what the oath of allegiance implied, and when she accepted, he would say ‘Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’”

Narrated by Muslim, 1866

This infallible one, the best of mankind, the leader of the sons of Adam on the Day of Resurrection, did not touch women. This is despite the fact that the oath of allegiance was originally given by hand. So how about men other than the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?

It was narrated that Umaymah the daughter of Raqeeqah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I do not shake hands with women.”

Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (4181) and Ibn Maajah, 2874; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2513.

Secondly:
 
It depends on your culture, country, and the laws. If it's okay with them then there's nothing wrong with you two hugging. Strict Islam doesn't allow touching or dating, though.
 
It depends on your culture, country, and the laws. If it's okay with them then there's nothing wrong with you two hugging. Strict Islam doesn't allow touching or dating, though.
 
if you lived in Saudi Arabia or any or nation under Shariia law, then yes its wrong (you might get severely punished actually)... but im guessing you dont live in an arab state so go ahead.

The Quran (and the bible) preaches male domination and essentially female slavery, But its the 21st century and we should not chain ourselves down to these outdated and archaic laws. just hug the kid
 
Ignore the twits.

I see two issues here - the Friend and the Culture.

I'd suggest talking to who ever told you about the Touching & ask for clarification. I'm guessing it's not an issue until you hit Puberty.

I'd also suggest talking to your Friend and quietly tell him that you feel _NOW_ uncomfortable with him hugging you and ask him to respect you as a person and stop.

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Ignore the twits.

I see two issues here - the Friend and the Culture.

I'd suggest talking to who ever told you about the Touching & ask for clarification. I'm guessing it's not an issue until you hit Puberty.

I'd also suggest talking to your Friend and quietly tell him that you feel _NOW_ uncomfortable with him hugging you and ask him to respect you as a person and stop.

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Yes it is completely wrong for him to touch you as far as i'm islamicly concerned you shouldn't even be talking or associating with this boy especially if he does not respect you beliefs wishes. I don't care what religion he is you have to have respect for other people beliefs just because your religion doesn't care if you touch someone of the opposite sex doesn't give you the right to touch someone who is of the religion that is not okay with the opposite sexes touching those who are not related to you. be careful today it's hug next thing you know it's fornication.
 
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