I'm starting to lose respect for my girlfriend, and I'm not really liking it and I'm starting to feel guilty. She had a kid three years ago, guy ended up bailing, she spent the next two years pretty much missing him, or having an off and on again relationship with him, she got pregnant when she was 16 too, and now she just turned 20 a couple days ago. It's not really her past that I think is making me lose respect for her, it's just that she's always relying on other people and when she doesn't get the help she's usually given, she gets pissed off. For example, Her and her mom live in Free Housing, a HUGE house, completely rent free. She has a part time job, 4 hours a day, 5 days a week cleaning hotel rooms. However, she also collects unemployment if she works under a certain amount of hours each week. Her mom doesn't work, never has. She claims disability, although, is obviously Not disabled. When you live in Free Housing, you can't have things like other people spending too much time in the house, or they lose their free house. (It's called HUD or something, also called Section 8) - She also collects food stamps. I have NEVER seen them cook a home-cooked meal, it's McDonalds in the morning, Subway or Hardees for Lunch, and KFC for dinner, almost every night... but they never seem to have money for their own bills or anything else. - Then they cry and talk about how much their life sucks and how they stress each other out. Even though she has a kid, she seems to have no inspiration in getting her G.E.D. or gaining some kind of career skill, she's perfectly happy where she's at. She has to depend on her mom to Babysit, and when her mom asks for a little bit of money for babysitting, my girlfriend blows up.
At the same time, when her mom throws a fit about me hanging out there at night after I get off work (and bring them all dinner!) - her mom blows up at her and tell her to tell me I have to leave (which is fine and all) - my girlfriend doesn't stick up for me being there and spending time with her and her son. But the two can argue all day long about dishes, bills, the mess her son made, who used the computer, why the milk is gone, but when it comes to me, its "I don't want to argue with her." I don't get it.
As a man who works, came from literally nothing, I'm just losing respect for her for not wanting to leave this. I'm not sure why exactly, but I'm tired of feeling guilty. When I was her age, (I'm a couple years older) I had nothing, not even an education, and now I'm making $45k a year which isn't amazing money but I'm doing alright.
At the same time, when her mom throws a fit about me hanging out there at night after I get off work (and bring them all dinner!) - her mom blows up at her and tell her to tell me I have to leave (which is fine and all) - my girlfriend doesn't stick up for me being there and spending time with her and her son. But the two can argue all day long about dishes, bills, the mess her son made, who used the computer, why the milk is gone, but when it comes to me, its "I don't want to argue with her." I don't get it.
As a man who works, came from literally nothing, I'm just losing respect for her for not wanting to leave this. I'm not sure why exactly, but I'm tired of feeling guilty. When I was her age, (I'm a couple years older) I had nothing, not even an education, and now I'm making $45k a year which isn't amazing money but I'm doing alright.