Stronghold is really fun. You are the kind and start off building your community. It takes back in the day with nights, archers, stuff like that. You have to hire people to cut trees in the area for wood. Hire people to hunt for food. Try it let me know how you like it!
Rise of Nations. Or Roman Empire. They are kinda old, but they do the job. World in Conflict is another good one, but it involves military tactics and terrain over building civilizations. The lord of the rings series have some good ones too
there is civilizations, all there games are good. not based just on fighting people, can win through having a strong economy or culture, there are a bunch of different ones