I'm lonely

Maybe I just need a new band? It's so hard to find drummers and bassists, though...

It just sucks becuase I'm actually a part of the local Camaro club and Im a musician... You'd think I'd have plenty of oppurtunities to meet people but for some reason I dont... A lot of it is because most people my age tend to define their leisure time with drugs and that just isnt my scene.
 
I commend you on steering clear of that shit (referring to the drug scene).

I agree with HOSTILE when it comes to "fuck people". You should always have sex with human beings; not animals, objects, etc.

I don't, however, agree with "who needs friends?"
There comes a time in everyone's life when their left/right hand stops being so amusing. Shoot, dude, you mentioned you're a part of a local club.

If most of the people around your age are doing that junk, avoid those, and try to get in with the few that don't. That already gives you a topic of conversation, since you've already made a point of connection between you and whoever it is you speak with. Both of you dislike using drugs.

If they're in the club, shit, they must like music. They must also like meeting other people. Isn't that kinda what you want to do? Meet people?
I guess I'm making it sound more simple than it really is; but in essence it's just about seeing where you can strike up a conversation. Once you've done that, you can end it with a "let's hang out again sometime".
 
Also, I recommend MySpace (blasphemy, i know) but almost everyone has one nowadays. Even older people. So, if you meet someone new, bring up something about computers and then MySpace, and see if they have one. I've met tons of people and found their MySpace and talked to them and got to know them a lot better over MySpace. It'll help because if you are shy, it's a lot easier to talk over the internet and also, if you talk to them a good bit you could be like, "Hey, we should hang out sometime." and since you talked over MySpace a good bit, it'd be cool. Now if you talked to them for one day and then called them and was like, "Hey dude, I only talked to you for 20 minutes a couple days ago but you wanna hang with me?" it'd be kind of creepy. My 2 cents.
 
Maybe you can talk about their hobbies and yours. And what they do and what kinda interests they have (just like Epidemic kinda said already).

Try not to look shy, so not look down to the ground too much. Keep looking in the eyes of the other person when he/she is talking, that makes a good impression that you're listening and that the other guy/girl feels like you're really having time for him/her to listen. Also try to figure out what kinda music they like and tell them what kinda music you're listening.

Like: He says: I think Korn is one of the best bands around.
You: Yeah they're making pretty good music yes. Which songs from Korn do you
thing are the best?
He: Ehmmm, Make me Bad and Freak on a Leash are the best! And what songs
from do korn do you like the most?
You: Well, most songs are really good. But I think " Freak on a Leash " is really
good indeed and also " Thoughtless ".

Try really to figure out what they like and listen to and stuff like that. Try to be interested, and then they'll know that you're a good person to talk to and if you keep going on like talking this way ... More and better conversions will come through and finally you'll probally become good friends.

It does take a while, because everyone needs to find some way of trust in the other person. it's not that you're suddenly really big good friends in just one day. You need to build up the band between eachother. So make sure you're a person to trust too.

Good luck, and don't doubt about your self, be confident about yourself!
 
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