situation...Please don't judge but..what now? Couple of months...in love, completely. But outside of our love there are complicating circumstances. For one she is married. Unhappily..I mean the guy is absolutely no good as a husband, father.....yes she has 2 beautiful little girls who mean the world to her...and he's not a real father to them. We have to keep our relationship quiet and for good reason.She has a job-and that's to be a single parent in the house. He's just so terrible I won't spend my time on him in this anymore but.....they haven't had contact physically ( none) in 8+years and since we got together not even eating or sleeping next to him...but even before that barely any, he barks not talks....I know I said I wouldn't but....He is mean and separates himself from everything a family is about and well there's more but that's the jist. She has stayed because of the children, she has brought them up in this situation so they could at least have a man (which he is not, the guy complains that he feels like he's 90...his potentially destructive power is not physical though ) around. So we fell in love, now we know each other, and the more we know the more we long to be together because we know that's how it should be. But...well...her sister disapproves of her falling in love, questions her as a mother (which believe me she has no room to talk) (and by the way the woman I love is a wonderful mom), and even goes to thier mother and talks to her ultimately causing an argument between my love and her mom-(who knows of the divorce which is being set up). My love-she feels she is being pulled in all directions (including by me, to start a life together as a family-I will love the girls, how can I not-they make her happy) and says to me she doesn't know what's going to happen. She saw a lawyer who told her it is possible to divorce in 6 months if things go smoothly and there can be joint custody, and she should try to get him out of the house. I feel so terrible that my lover, my friend, my future wife, is emotionally drained. She will not stand for the loss of her children to a man who is crazy and who's whole family is crazy-where they would not be looked after correctly. I know this, what I want to know is....one-how can I encourage and help her with these hard times?, she is being pulled and I don't want that- I want her to be happy, two- if you have ever been even close to what we are going through and came out happily joined how did you do it and what happened? umm..three-what can we do about her mom and sister pulling her back to stay because of the children...her biggest fear is losing them which she can't do. The guy is crazy and she says she knows how to deal with him but when she told him about the divorce he acted like it never happened and started sucking up to her almost mockingly....how can we get rid of him? And any other solutions (please no break up solutions) to the situations would be greatly appreciated. The lawyer said that the divorce could be what we hope for-she has grounds-probable custody-and she has a big reason to go through with it as long as she/we get the girls. What can I do and say to be strong while she makes her moves? All we want is to be together-all of us.It's hard to understand and I don't expect you to.
Yeah she lives with him and all I know is what she tells me-but I believe her. And the children are his....and I wouldn't put him down in front of them. I know we can't be found out. Her sis found out and caused many problems...we text/call and barely get to see each other even though it's summer. But I forget all that completely when I'm with her. Yeah the thing is she has to get him out "nicely" and play this game (she hated these kind of games) and hope that it will work.
Yeah she lives with him and all I know is what she tells me-but I believe her. And the children are his....and I wouldn't put him down in front of them. I know we can't be found out. Her sis found out and caused many problems...we text/call and barely get to see each other even though it's summer. But I forget all that completely when I'm with her. Yeah the thing is she has to get him out "nicely" and play this game (she hated these kind of games) and hope that it will work.