I'm I being ignorant? Racist? Or just complaining?

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I've been told that I was very ignorant, racist and I'm just complaining because of the abuse that I experienced my whole life at home. I was raised into a religious, abusive, Islamic house hold. I was physically/mentally/sexually abused by my family because simply I was a girl. My brother never experienced any abuse what so ever. My mother and I only experienced it and also other women family members.
I was sent back to Ethiopia because of an arrange marriage my parents planned when I was a baby. I was arranged to get married to my father's friend (which is much older than him) and I was the age of 5 or 6 during that time. I was sent back to Canada because Children's Aid found out about this situation. So I was sent to a foster home.
I was told by a lot of people (like my foster mother, social worker, etc) that I'm very racist and I'm just complaining because of my life. I was told that I should accept how my life is and what ever my parents are doing isn't wrong because of the culture. I know I shouldn't be blaming Islam because it didn't state anything in the Quran or Hadith to disrespect women. Is it just my culture I should blame?
I need an honest reply. Is it really my fault? I'm I complaining or being racist? Is what ever I went through actually abuse?
 
You are right it isn't in the Qu'ran to treat a woman like that. It is simply your family. Your family is doing harmful and hurtful things to you because they are wrong. They are not true Muslims because people of Islam does not do that. I can't really say it;s racism but I can say that it is a stage in your life that you should forgive but never forget. If you let hate consume you then you will not have a happy life which is giving your family more power over you. Just try to forgive them over time and then remember to never allow someone to treat you or your future children that way. I wish you peace and may God be with you. If you need to talk to someone you can email me at [email protected]
 
I don't doubt that you were abused- several cultures hold daughters to no value whatsoever.

You're not being racist for not wanting to be any part of a culture and lifestyle that condoned your abuse.

Making the abuse public so that it can be stopped is not "just complaining" either.

Tell those people to go jump, change your life as you see fit, including speaking out against your upbringing if that is what you wish to do. Perhaps you will save other little girls that way.

Oh, and it was NEVER your fault - did you ask to be born a girl in that culture? Did you ask to be born at all? No.
 
By the standards of modern Western society anyone who was subjected to what you describe was horribly abused and has every right to complain - and possibly take legal action.
 
This is just my personal opinion, I don't think you are any of those statements you just made above. I think all things that have happen to you are horrible. I think you are upset and need to vent out a little, everybody does sometimes.
 
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