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MissUnderstood
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...outdoor wedding...Help!!!? Okay, I'm 23 and my fiance is 24. We're living together to finish out college which we'll finish fall of 2010. We really want to get married 5-15-10 because we've been engaged since Aug 2007 (he'll be 25, me 24). We really want an outdoor wedding. Frankly i don't have a home church though i've visited many though havent found my niche yet,which is my own fault plus my parents didn't raise me in church but I did go to a Christian school so I am a devoted Christian even considering I dont have a home church. My fiance has a church but he's thinking of changing. We love the outdoors &both of us agree that we feel just as spiritual outside in nature because you can really see the beautiful works God has made.Seeing nature especially flowers, an ocean, or mountain,really gives me the equivalent feel of being close to God just like in church. I love it.So that's a big part of why we wanted to do an outdoor wedding.
My mom, on the other hand, really wants me to do a church wedding because it's cheaper and that's what she did (moreso the second part). She keeps telling me "wouldnt you like to save the $ on an outdoor wedding and put it on a nice honeymoon?" because it was cheap when she did hers. Now, regardless we intend on having a good honeymoon which we're willing to save and sacrifice and compromise on parts of the wedding to accomplish. BUT, with that said, we really want an outdoor wedding. But my mom (who's on disability and probably bipolar but never gone to a doctor about it) keeps trying to change my mind and when I simply tell her that's what we want she just gets upset and sulls and leaves the room. Her and my dad have been divorced since i was like 4 and havent seen or spoken to the other in over 10 years (he's remarried, my mom's not and not even dating), which by the way, makes planning also VERY difficult. Basically,my mom doesn't have much $ but my dad has lots of it and she''ll get mad at me when I say if he's willing to help out financially (which I dont know yet), im going to take it! Me and her have gotten in arguments already to the point where I've asked myself if it isn't worth it to just save the worry and elope! I don't know how to handle my mom because of her control issues. I'm fine with getting her help on many things that I've expressed i.e. dress,flowers,etc., but I think me and my fiance are entitled to choose where and what kind of wedding we want even though its not going to be what my mom wants because it's not how she did hers. I'm not her though and wasnt raised in a home church like she was when she was married. What do i do about this situation of me and my mom clashing on my own wedding plans already?
My mom, on the other hand, really wants me to do a church wedding because it's cheaper and that's what she did (moreso the second part). She keeps telling me "wouldnt you like to save the $ on an outdoor wedding and put it on a nice honeymoon?" because it was cheap when she did hers. Now, regardless we intend on having a good honeymoon which we're willing to save and sacrifice and compromise on parts of the wedding to accomplish. BUT, with that said, we really want an outdoor wedding. But my mom (who's on disability and probably bipolar but never gone to a doctor about it) keeps trying to change my mind and when I simply tell her that's what we want she just gets upset and sulls and leaves the room. Her and my dad have been divorced since i was like 4 and havent seen or spoken to the other in over 10 years (he's remarried, my mom's not and not even dating), which by the way, makes planning also VERY difficult. Basically,my mom doesn't have much $ but my dad has lots of it and she''ll get mad at me when I say if he's willing to help out financially (which I dont know yet), im going to take it! Me and her have gotten in arguments already to the point where I've asked myself if it isn't worth it to just save the worry and elope! I don't know how to handle my mom because of her control issues. I'm fine with getting her help on many things that I've expressed i.e. dress,flowers,etc., but I think me and my fiance are entitled to choose where and what kind of wedding we want even though its not going to be what my mom wants because it's not how she did hers. I'm not her though and wasnt raised in a home church like she was when she was married. What do i do about this situation of me and my mom clashing on my own wedding plans already?
