my wife and i got married 23 years ago and we havent had sex yet, is this really that big of a deal. i find the whole thought of intercourse disgusting and i really have never wanted to have sex. my wife is the same way. we have a very fulfilling marriage and after telling one of my very close male friends that i have never had sex or even masturbated he started to laugh and make fun of me. im very depressed, what should i do, that doesnt involve having sex with my wife?