I'm 21 and I've had sex with 4 guys, is that considered a low number?

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I was 14 when I first had sex. It was date rape.
I've turned a lot of guys down for sex. And I wouldn't even have gone in the room with one guy if I knew that's what he wanted. I want to keep my number low! I wish it was 0!
 
i think thats great since having sex at 14 and your 21 that means in 7yrs you only had 4 guys thats good. don't let anyone pressure you in to having sex if you don't won't to. it's not good to sleep around your body is a precious jewel and you should cherish it. if you want to wait for mr. right thats fine. but let whatever you do it be at your will. no guy wants to settle down with a woman who has been around the block. they only use them for sex. keep a good reputation and you will love yourself even more and so will others
 
If you are having sex with guys that your not in a serious relationship with then you are a hoe. Girls that put out for guys they are having a casual date with, etc. and haven't' made a commitment to see only that guy are looked upon as easy, cheap, hoes, etc. I hope you have more character than that. Sounds like you would maybe sleep with a guy just because though.
 
These days, yeah it's a low number. In my book it's high, but that's because I'm choosing to remain a virgin till marriage.
Don't beat yourself up though, you're doing good compared to most people. I have a cousin who's maybe 22 who's slept with close to 200 guys, but some nights she slept with more than one. Which isn't anything to brag about, but that's her business.
 
Omg yea. i know girls that are in their 20s or 30s (times they've had sex with a different person). 4 is like mother teresa compared to them
 
It's more than most 21 year olds I know. Only 2 of my friends have had more than 4. I'm 21 and have had sex with one guy.

But if you are counting the non-voluntary guy in the 4 then your number is really 3. Or were they all rape? Why do you wish it was 0? I'm confused. I know some 21 year olds who have had 0 and they're not too happy.

I don't think it matters, just be safe and careful.
 
Numbers don't matter...(with the exception of the rape) they will get as high or remain as low as you allow them to be. The numbers don't define you, nor are they anyone else's business except yours. (Of course, if you really wanted the number to be zero, it would be.)
 
No your not if your 21 and you had sex when you were 14 then means youve had sex with 4 different people in about 7 years so it wasnt like you were just opening your legs so no. If you actually dated and then sex occured 4 is a descent number i know girls that have sex wne there drunk so you golden :)
 
It's sad that your first experience was a bad one. And this seems to be happening a lot for people who 'hook up' (How I hate that phrase!! It turns making love sound like something on a fishing trip!!) with someone they wouldn't even share an ice cream cone. And we won't even THINK about the fact that the same behaviour that can make a human soul is something that women do to make a good impression on some bozo.

Your behaviour is reasonable and sensible. (Unless you're trying to put a lot of notches on your bedpost!) The best way to avoid 'date rape' is to keep away from places and activities where 'date rape' is POSSIBLE, as you have been doing. (Duh ....)

'Making love' with someone who you KNOW loves you, it makes the other stuff seem just GROSS.
 
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