I'm 17 and so is my boyfriend. He has no car, no job should i dump him?

J

Jess

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Dating for 3 months
I have a job he doesn't
&& I take us everywhere && pay for everything
On valentines day he had enough to pay for both of us but didn't
We went dutch. (I didn't really get a choice)
[But he admitted to saving up to buy me the rose && teddy bear that he bought me
Idk me paying for everything is putting a dent in my bank account
But I want to go out so i have to payy

How long should i put up with driving us around and paying for him to eat?
 
Well are you still in school? If you are it really isn't his fault he doesn't have a car or a job (I wouldn't really expect him to have either). He might not have time for a job or the money for a car. Try doing things that are free, you don't need to spend money to have fun.
 
Tell him to get a job, that you annoyed of paying for him all the time.

If he fails to get a job in another month, dump him.
 
Have a talk with him. Finding a job shouldn't take too long. Just don't go out and say you're broke.
He might feel bad and start to get a job. If he doesn't and takes too long, he's not worth it.
 
What the hell do you guys do that you always have to be paying? Do you not do anything for free or at least something cheap?! He's 17 and you expect him to have a car?! I would say people are pretty damn lucky to own a car by that age. My brother is 24 and doesn't have a car and he works. Maybe he can have a job but even so because he doesn't have a job (especially being he's only 17) it's not that big of a deal and definitely should not be something causing someone to break up.
Can you not do something that's cheap or something that you don't have to pay for? There are tons of things you can do without paying. Honestly, if money is a huge factor in the relationship than what are you in a relationship for? If you don't want to pay for everything than do something cheaper or for free; It's pretty simple.
 
Yes, you should break up. If all you want is to go out and have a good time, then you don't need him. At least if you are single you can spend your money on yourself. At your age his situation isn't that unusual, but it's clearly not what you want right now so it's unfair to him to continue this any further.
 
He is 17, what do you expect? Just stop paying for him to eat, I am sure he manages when you aren't there. Does he spend time studying instead of working to appease you? Or is he blowing his money on crap? There is a big difference.
 
Is he making an effort? For example, does he have his license and can take his parents car out every few weeks? Does he not have a job because of his heavy courseload at school? If he's just being lazy and relying on you, dump him. I fought with my old boyfriend so much for him to get a license, it's not that hard. He flat out refused. We eventually broke up.
However you shouldn't be paying for EVERYTHING, no matter the circumstances. Try staying in and renting movies once and a while.
 
this is tuff. but think about it: if it was the other way around would you expect him to pay for everything? i would talk to him about it if you havent already. your going to be going to college soon(?) and you dont have the extra cash to be paying for everything every time so talk to him about getting a job. but if it is you thats wanting to go out and hed rather stay in then i understand. think of ways that he can help out like helping you with chores or something to help pay for you driving him around. did you get him anything for vday? if not then you should be ok with paying for what you did (movies and dinner?) but if you believe in the guy paying for everything situation then i would give him some ultimatums. hope this helps!
 
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