If your father in law made rude comments about you 3 yr old son what would

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you do about it? He hardly never sees him by the way. And this is what takes place when he does. Thanks for your help.
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The family never says a thing to there dad. He is boldly raciest. The last 3 were "put him in a cage" then he came over to his grandpa and as my son walked away he kicked my son in the butt and said get used to a shoe being up your butt. Then the last which pissed me off more then the others was you know you might want to consider drowning. I texted my husband during the first and said you need to say something to your dad or I will. Even after the last one my husband said nothing. This is just who he is everyone says. I said I understand that maybe if someone says something he would take notice of what he does.
Sorry for the mistakes. I'm so upset. Our son is the sweetest child that loves his granpa so much. And my son just smiles and has no idea what his grandfather just said. My husband also says rude comments about every race. I promise my self to protect my son and raise him the right way. They see me as a big nobody stay @ home mothers are wortless. Nothing a day care, camp, afterschool sport can't do. They are highly educaded and respected bussiness men. My husband fooled me when we dated. I met the dad 1 year after our son was born. I love my son but regret who I choose as his father.
 
I think people know when to say things that will get under your skin. If he is bad mouthing your son, just simply tell him that you would appreciate it if he stops. If he continues just ignore him. However if he is directly talking bad to your son, then that is where you draw the line. You tell him to stop and apologize to him, or he is no longer welcome in your home. Make sure you tell your spouse how you are feeling so that you are both on the same page.
 
avoid him -this is the healthiest thing for your family. this is also the joy of being an adult -we can chose who we want to have in our lives.
 
tell him in front of the child that in our family, we treat each other with respect and if he can't manage that, he's free to leave.
 
Unfortunately this is tough and youyr husband is put in a tough position but hes the only one that could really talk to him about it.Tell your husband the way youir feeling and maybe get your little one to say something/stick up for himself.(This worked with my 4 yr old bro)The comment were extremly rude I cant deny you that and I hpe this situation gets better
 
I would like to know what the rude remark was so I could give a more informed response to your question.

If you do not want to write more then, I would have to agree with others and suggest you ignore it.
Sometimes people purposely say things to get others "going" so to speak, so not acknowledging that your are phased by the remarks may stop the rudeness.
 
I would have your husband talk to him and if that doesn't work talk to him yourself. If nothing changes I would just tell him that if he wants to spend time with his grandson than he better start treating him like a grandpa should treat his grandchildren.
 
If it was something that's constant and it bothered me, I would ask my husband to talk to his father about it. Sometimes the older generations have a rougher "sense of humor" or just a different way of seeing things and are not aware that their comment might be hurtful. If his son talks to him about it, he might stop and you've avoided any uncomfortable arguments.

Talking back or waiting til he does it again and confronting him is definitely not the answer.
 
you know what i will do?i will make sure that every time that he is around i make sure to take my son away from him and make him notice that so he will dream to just say he to his grandson again
 
I really wouldn't care who the person is , no one would make rude comments about any child in my presents . They would be verbally reprimanded* on the spot.One you permit it to happen without reprimand , that person will continue to make comments , sometimes it could get worse . So stop it now .Just say something like . I will not permit you to make rude comments to my child , please stop it now.If it doesn't work drop the please , and remove the child and yourself from the area .
 
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