If your child is noisy in a restaurant what would you do?

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I have only one son who is 11 months old. We take him out to restaurants occasionally and if he starts to get noisy I take him outside for a walk. I do this because I would not like to have to put up with it if I was one of the other diners in that restaurant. Also, because I do not want my son to be upset and ignored.
I have noticed that parents with older kids will sometimes just sit there and let their kids scream and make a fuss and not do anything about it. Why is this? What would you do if your child was being noisy in a nice restaurant?
I agree, it is too much to expect a young baby to behave in a restaurant. Young babies do not even know how to behave! I can take my son out to nice restaurants, because I know if he is noisy I am happy to take him outside to keep him happy. Often my husband and I will go out to eat and I'll take my son for a walk while hubby eats and vice versa. Sometimes you need to eat out and there are no family restaurants!
But I was really talking about older kids. When they are old enough to understand right from wrong. I assume that, when my child is older, I will still take him outside if he is noisy, and if he never calms down we'll just go home. I do not understand why other parents wouldn't show that consideration. If they are using an "ignore" tactic then shouldn't they use it where other people have not paid good money to sit down and enjoy and nice meal in a pleasant atmosphere. After all, those other diners can't just up and leave if it gets too noisy after ordering their food!
 
I can't tell you how many times we had to take our food with us and finish our meal at home because my kids would tag team scream. We just stopped going out until they got a little older. They are now, 3 & 4 and behave pretty well.
 
Yes I agree with you.They do that because they use the "ignore method" which I have seen does nothing for the kid. I own a coffee shop and a mother comes in here with her 10 yr old daughter who has ADHD or ADD which ever one it is. But the little girl is terrible she screams, changes my channel on TV, messes up my magazines, yells at me, and her mother is like "remember we have to be patient and blah blah blah, meanwhile the little girl covers her ears and yells IM NOT LISTENING!!!! Im sorry, everything has a medical term now a days and all they need is a good spanking. I say give them their medicine and if it continues spank them!!!! Point blank... I know people dont agree with this method because "it shows violence" I was raised on spankings (with a belt). I knew not to act up in public, to be good in school, make good grades, and I know right from wrong.

As for what you do when your 11 month old is being noisy, give him some of your food to taste... It works wonders with my little niece(she is 1yr old), I'll give her some of my lemonade or soda, or a bit of what Im eating and she just starts focusing on the food lol.
 
I take mine for a walk too. I dont know why people let them do it maybe they try ignoring them. Sometimes i use the ignoring them method with my children, as not to draw attention to their tempertantrums, inturn teaching them that tantrums do not get you the response you want, words and speaking your wants and needs do, but i only do that at home, because its embarrassing for the child and he parent if its done in public, i dont know diffrent strokes for different folks. Mine are pretty well behaved now, except for when we are in a resturant and they are over tired or over hungry, then we go for a walk and wait for the food.

parent of a 4 year old boy and 6 year old girl.
 
I avoid going to nice restaurants with my toddler. He's 2.5yo and is well behaved for the most part, but he is a 2yo and will occasionally throw a fit.
If he does get loud while we're out in public (anywhere), I try to calm him down on the spot, but will leave if he gets out of control. That's only happened once or twice and to be honest, I left to decrease his over-stimulation more than to please other patrons.
I'd like to think that most parents are sympathetic to others that have a child who is being noisy, especially an infant. As long as the parent is trying to diffuse the situation, I wouldn't think twice about putting up with it. Children cry, but they and their parents have just as much of a right to be out eating as everyone else.
 
I never allow my kids to misbehave at home at the table, so I don't do it at a restaurant either. Not to say it doesn't happen but we practice manners at home and when we go out, it is an opportunity to use them publically. I think it is important to give them the exposure to the restuarant experience in order to teach them how to act.

My 9 yr old is so curious about things she finds the wait for the food hard ( fast food has given the 'here, now' expectation) so while she won't be noisy, I usually give her a tablet or something and tell her to write a story about what she is seeing in the restaraunt.

My 5 yr old can be really whiny when she's hungry so I pack her some raisins or other snack to have while she waits.

My 2 yr old - well, he's 2. We use as much distraction and cheerios as possible but if he gets loud, I will take him out. But I have to be careful he doesn't get so involved in something more interesting that he does not want to go back to the table.
 
Children should learn how to behave, like you are already teaching your child, you can't act like that at the table. We are recovering from an era where everyone can "kiss my ass" attitude and it's slowly changing, manners are becomming more important, not every kid gets a trophy, you have to earn your stuff, etc. Enough ranting- although a recent Yahoo article did report on the 20 somethings who were so used to getting stroked and now that they are on the job are having a very rude wake up call, they don't call the shots. Anyhow, manners are manners in all aspects of life. We need to treat other people the way we want to be treated and that means leaving the restaurant if behavior can't be controlled so other diners can enjoy their experience. Afterall, if someone has a babysitter, the last thing they want is a tantrum, from an infant to a teen who doesn't want to be there.
 
The parents probably do not know how to control their children since they are so hard to control.

Well what i would do before taking my child i would make sure to let him or her to not be noisy because there will be consequences.
 
Children should learn how to behave, like you are already teaching your child, you can't act like that at the table. We are recovering from an era where everyone can "kiss my ass" attitude and it's slowly changing, manners are becomming more important, not every kid gets a trophy, you have to earn your stuff, etc. Enough ranting- although a recent Yahoo article did report on the 20 somethings who were so used to getting stroked and now that they are on the job are having a very rude wake up call, they don't call the shots. Anyhow, manners are manners in all aspects of life. We need to treat other people the way we want to be treated and that means leaving the restaurant if behavior can't be controlled so other diners can enjoy their experience. Afterall, if someone has a babysitter, the last thing they want is a tantrum, from an infant to a teen who doesn't want to be there.
 
If the kids are still quite young, it is unreasonable to expect them to be able to sit absolutely still and keep quiet in a nice restaurant. It is just plain unfair for parents to put them in this situation. They should be taking them to a family friendly place (not just to be considerate to the other diners, but to be fair on the kids).

If my child (young but not a baby) was being noisy in a restaurant, I'd realize I was putting unrealistic expectations on them, and should pick a more appropriate place next time.
 
I try to go noisy, full of kids, family type restaurants because I know that...well kids will be kids.
And it is very annoying in a nice restaurant. If I pay good money than I want to enjoy my food. Though I am much more understanding now than I had my daughter. Now I know that sometimes the child will act out and you can't prevent it.
So I just avoid them with my DD.
Doing nothing about it could be a strategy as well. Sometime ignoring the child is the best optioni especially if the child is big (like 3-4, and trowing a tantrum)
Taking him outside for a walk is a very nice solution both for the customers and the kid. But, for you? Not so much.
Ah, being a mother..
 
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