If you feel restless after a debate, does that mean you're wrong?

Ella

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If after the debate/ argument has ended without any of the sides accepting defeat, and you feel restless and you are still thinking of more points on your sides for awhile, does that mean that you are actually not sure if you're on the right side?

However, you know you're not going to change your opinion on the matter. Yet you still continue to recite more points to yourself. Is that act actually to reassure yourself that you're right, or you just feel that you should have won if you were given more time (and if the opposition would just stop being stubborn)?
 
It just means that your mind has been stirred up by the debate, and takes a bit of time to settle down again. Win or lose, this is how the mind works. It happens after sporting contests and job interviews, but with a different content.
 
It means that you had an opponent who was worth competing against. You felt challenged for a change. It also made you consider some points that you had not considered before and your mind is restless--still analyzing what you heard; dissecting the bits of information and overcoming them with logic.
 
It is not about being always right. You are searching for the truth, so if you feel the other is really convincing that does not mean they defeated you. No, you are enriching yourself when you accept it and make use of it.

But as to main question, it is not necessarily that you are wrong, but might be not sure of what you are defending, or lost track, or not feeling free enough to express yourself.
 
It is certainly to reassure yourself that you are right. However, you may actually BE right still.

Just because someone it taking time to reassure themselves, doesn’t mean they are wrong. In other words, you can be worried that you’re wrong and yet still be right.

(Just like how people can be 99% sure they are right, and still be wrong in actuality.)
 
It is certainly to reassure yourself that you are right. However, you may actually BE right still.

Just because someone it taking time to reassure themselves, doesn’t mean they are wrong. In other words, you can be worried that you’re wrong and yet still be right.

(Just like how people can be 99% sure they are right, and still be wrong in actuality.)
 
I think no matter how sure you are about a point, if someone argues it with valid and strong points, it'll make you doubt yourself.

It doesn't mean you're right or wrong, because everything is subjective and your opinion, and it's only natural to question yourself when other points are being presented.

A debate is kind of a competition, so your animal instincts kick in and your heart race goes up, it doesn't mean your weak, it means you're trying to keep strengthening your argument, just because you know you're responsibility is to clarify your side as much as possible.

Don't be intimidated !
 
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