I know you keep asking this question in different ways because you didn't like the answer with relativistic speeds, but both things are true.
If two trains are going 10 km/h, the relative speed is 20 km/hr. The difference between what Newtonian mechanics says and relativity says is too small to measure.
But if both are going 0.6c, the difference between what Newtonian mechanics and relativity say are huge.