should I do? I have a girlfriend , she used to be my fiance until she started putting me down because I was unemployed for a year (due to being railroaded at work)and she had to support me. I understand the stress it caused, but didnt feel I should have been called a loser and worthless piece of ****, scum, her saying i'll never be anything etc. this went on daily, sometimes several times a day.I am a guy and it sucks to admit, but sometimes I would cry because it hurt me pretty bad..When her friends would come over they would see me at desk reading a book or on computer and they would say "get a job loser" and she wouldnt even defend me.
I used to explain to her that if she was in my position I wouldnt call her names. I would spend my time at home and read business books, look up articles etc. to try to get educated more about business.
Anyhow fast forward a year and I started my own business with a friend of mine(who always supported my business ideas and thought I would pull through). A year after starting its a success. I never thought of myself as a failure and despite the daily name calling I believed I could succeed. I feel she mentally abused me when I already felt bad about myself and lack of money. I now feel like all women may act like that and am scared to date and that is why I downgraded her from fiance to girlfriend and now I dont want anything to do with her.
Problem is now she wants me to support her, and I just dont feel that way about her after the name calling. I feel like she stripped me of any emotion I had towards her. I am willing to give her a years worth of support (same she gave me) but I dont wanna be with her and I wanna be with a woman who will respect me and not put me down.She is angry and I asked her to move out and I will pay her the money(years worth of support). She still is yelling at me and calling me a loser etc. and telling me if she would have not put up with me I wouldnt have anything.
What should I do. I honestly would not have called her names like that if she was in need of help from me I would have actually enjoyed giving her help, but she ruined that with name calling.
I used to explain to her that if she was in my position I wouldnt call her names. I would spend my time at home and read business books, look up articles etc. to try to get educated more about business.
Anyhow fast forward a year and I started my own business with a friend of mine(who always supported my business ideas and thought I would pull through). A year after starting its a success. I never thought of myself as a failure and despite the daily name calling I believed I could succeed. I feel she mentally abused me when I already felt bad about myself and lack of money. I now feel like all women may act like that and am scared to date and that is why I downgraded her from fiance to girlfriend and now I dont want anything to do with her.
Problem is now she wants me to support her, and I just dont feel that way about her after the name calling. I feel like she stripped me of any emotion I had towards her. I am willing to give her a years worth of support (same she gave me) but I dont wanna be with her and I wanna be with a woman who will respect me and not put me down.She is angry and I asked her to move out and I will pay her the money(years worth of support). She still is yelling at me and calling me a loser etc. and telling me if she would have not put up with me I wouldnt have anything.
What should I do. I honestly would not have called her names like that if she was in need of help from me I would have actually enjoyed giving her help, but she ruined that with name calling.