I want to get a divorce, but my husband refuses to even discuss it....?

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Because I have Bi Polar disorder, he refuses to believe that this is more than a mood-swing or a manic episode. He tells me that he refuses to "feed into" my delusions. He just cannot believe that this is REALLY how I feel--I just don't love him anymore. What should I do? He tells me that if I am serious, I should just sue him for divorce, but that he will fight me every step of the way. Am I supposed to just walk away from everything (financially speaking) that I have ever worked for? He does not SAY that he would drag the Bi Polar diagnosis into things to keep me from getting custody of our kids, but I know that he will. Anyone out there have any constructive input for me?
 
Bi Polar can be controlled with the proper meds. and if you take them and have never showed any signs of loosing control where your kids are concerned, then he can't use this to get custody of the kids. Bi Polar is made up of 2 areas, one is being really happy while the other is being really sad. This is known as life being white and black. Your disease will not tell your heart what you feel, so follow your heart and file for a divorce, if you don't love him. Everything material in your marriage is community property, which means that it will be divided eqally between the two of you. Your children will get their beds, toys and clothing automatically. True they do not legally own anything until they are 18, but the parent with the kids gets the necessary things for them. Do not leave as he will get you for abandonment, especially if you leave the kids.
If you must leave, take the kids, but do not go across any state line, or you are guilty of kidnapping the kids. If you can not afford an attorney, go to Legal Aid for help. Good Luck
 
What do you want? He's not going to agree with the divorce but he can't stop you. You need to decide for you where you want to be. Does it include him? Can it include him?

Falling in and out of love in a marriage is normal. The Love is sticking together and continuing to give especially when it's difficult.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay is a book to help you evaluate your situation.
 
he does not have to agree with the divorce. most states these days are no fault states so you don't really need a reason for a divorce..... my ex never discussed anything about a divorce.... I came home one day and the house was empty and the next day there was a knock on my door and I was served divorce papers......

I bet you could do a search on the web using the string

"bipolar+disorder+divorce" and you will get a lot of hits and you can see how it played in child custody battles.....
 
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