I WANNA MOVE OUT OF MY PARENTS HOUSE....HOW DO I BREAK THE NEWS?

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i am 20 years old. i just finished my 2nd year at college. the reason i wanna move out is because i feel caged at home. my parents are very strict and very uptight, typical traditional family. i love them but i have had enough of hearing "under my roof, my rules..etc" every day. i can't decide anything for myself and my life consists of JUST GOING TO SCHOOL and working! i work 6 days a week! i've been thinking about moving out for a while now because i feel stuck here, i have ABSOLUTELY no social life and am not allowed to do anything.. i am either studying, working or staying home. i wanna be a normal kid, i know i will regret it if i dont move out because my young years are all going to waste! i wanted to travel to europe with a tour this year with the money i saved (i have just over 2000 dollars) but my parents didn't allow me to do that either, which doesnt surprise me.. and ive been very frustrated! i work and save for nothing! i dont get to sleepover at a friends house, i have a 8 oclock curfew which is home right after work. i am reaally sad..

any advice? should i stick another year? if i do move, how do i tell my parents? you think i have enough to move out and support myself? HELP!
 
Start small, like asking for the classified ads. When they ask why you want them just tell them you'd like to start looking for an apartment. Don't make a big deal out of it just let it be a comment. If they ask why you're looking for an apartment then just say something like you're getting prices so you can make sure you have enough money saved when the time is right. They'll think it's just something that you might do one day and then they'll come to terms with it. I would not recommend having a big discussion about it, that could get ugly. Just plant seeds and let them grow. It's time for you to move out though.
 
i suggest you talk to your parents about it first. do they know that you want to move out? because they might compromise. either way supporting yourself financially is tough? have you thought about suggesting renting a room from them? or living in the dorms of your college?
 
oh man! that's not normal.. they sound way too controlling,,,
i wouldn't stick around another year, no way.. these should be the best years of your life. & you kidding about the 8 o'clock curfew right?? i stopped listening to curfew when i was like 16... moved out at 17.. & no sleepovers.. oh no, that is sad,
you are a 20yr old ADULT!!! you need to start living. just organize somewhere to live or travel whatever you want, organize it behind their backs, and tell them the day, or day before so they cant change your mind.. once your gone you wont regret it.. good luck
 
oh man! that's not normal.. they sound way too controlling,,,
i wouldn't stick around another year, no way.. these should be the best years of your life. & you kidding about the 8 o'clock curfew right?? i stopped listening to curfew when i was like 16... moved out at 17.. & no sleepovers.. oh no, that is sad,
you are a 20yr old ADULT!!! you need to start living. just organize somewhere to live or travel whatever you want, organize it behind their backs, and tell them the day, or day before so they cant change your mind.. once your gone you wont regret it.. good luck
 
20 years old with an 8 o'clock curfew?

Man, your parents need to realize that your not a little kid anymore.

I would find a job and move out as quick as I could. I'd tell them that your an adult and although it may be their house and their rules they either need to modify the rules to something more appropriate for a 20 year old and not someone 13. Or you will move out.

More than likely they will tell you to go then, but you have stood your ground and then it is up to you to show them you can make it on your own and have the responsibility to make good choices.
 
You need to set some rules for yourself and what it is you exactly want to do. You work and go to school. You need to find a apartment which can be reasonable for you or maybe see if you can locate to living on school campus. Talk to your councelor at your school to see what he or she feels or the advice they can give you. You should of went to Europe with your friends. You are 20 and it is your life. You need to live your life the way you wish to. But you do need to be careful. You need to work and go to school. That is your main priority. Don't get it twisted. You can have fun, but do not lose your goals you wish to achieve. Check the paper for local apartments or efficiencies. Get something you can afford. Your parents will try to talk you out of it once you confront them. But stick to your guns and demand their support. You need your families support not thier control. I hope you find something within your pay range. Be careful and do not be so trusting of others. Now that you are a grown man you will see it is all about survival and what you make of your life. Get your career in check and worry about your future in some day having your own family and being able to live a comfortable life. Our economy is really bad right now and your education is very important for your future. It is okay to have some fun while going to school, but do not lose your focus on what you wish to achieve in life. Good luck to you.
 
Whipped.

Erm no offence but for a 20 year old you sound ridiculously dependent. In england when you go to uni most people leave home, i thought it was like that in america as well.

If your over 18 how can they stop you from going out, how can they stop you from going abroad. if they kick you out, then you have got your wish now you can move out, if they don't kick you out tell them your moving out.

What are they gonna do hand cuff you to you bed and walk you to classes every day.

If you Truly are an adult start acting like one

Lol 8 o clock curfew.
I haven't had a curfew since i was 16 and even then it only applied on school nights.

Seriously man up(or girl up) and tell them where to go, if they say leave say ok. then they will either think twice or you can go live on your own.

Do you not have other family to stay with in the area, or as i have said, your in uni live on your own or with friends.

I am still haveing trouble believing this, im not sure if your kidding or not.
 
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