i think we had sex too soon?

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Maddie

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i started dating a great guy and we were hanging out and watching a movie. a heavy makeout session commenced and then we ended up in his bedroom. we're only about 6 dates into our relationship. i usually like to wait months before having sex. is our relationship completely ruined? is there anyway to make sure that this relationship isn't strictly for just sex? i really care about him. i just got carried away.
i don't know i'm kind of a prude and like to wait before i jump into bed with somebody. i'm 20 and he's a bit older.
 
I don't understand why you think this would ruin the relationship. You had a great night together and then had sex, which you both enjoyed. You really care about each other and you couldn't keep your hands off each other.

Exactly how does this lead to the destruction of the relationship?

Edit: ok well I understand that you don't want to send signals that "this is only about sex" but you don't need to wait months to do that. And this was the 6th date, not the first one or anything.

If I was him I would not think the relationship is all about sex because of this. And if you start seeing any signs of him feeling that way, call him out on it and tell him that's not acceptable, and dump him if he keeps acting that way. But I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

Sounds like things are going great for you right now, try worrying less and just enjoy it.
 
well maddie, if he's that great of a guy he wont want you for just sex. he probably cares for you too.
age is a really big thing in this also... maybe add more detail...?
 
Maddie.. It was just over a week before I had sex with my now fiance when we first started dating and it was honestly the best experience. I wanted him that much, he made me feel that comfortable to give myself to him right away. Usually we don't because of our insecurities (will he like my body, will he be turned off), but just jump straight into it. It's one of the best ways to get to know someone intimately, the sooner you're comfortable with your body and him knowing it inside and out, the more comfortable you'll be in your relationship in terms of sharing things with him. Intimacy is so important, why wait when you already feel so connected and attracted?
 
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