I suck at approaching girls

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allie lewis

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I just came from going out, to a place called the Shannon Irish Pub.
It's a great place and they sell an amazing amount of different kind of beers and there's music live and... well, a good place to go any night.

Today, a band I saw one a month ago at the same place, was going to play and I was looking forward for today real bad.

Anyway, I got there and it was great, had fun with my friend (lady, but just friend) and laughed at everything/one as usual.
Then these 2 two girls appeared, they sat on the table behind me, and one of them was so damn gorgeous and she is just like the kind of girl I like, just seemed perfect.

At one moment the band singer talked about the band webpage and said that the album is free to download, etc.
Thirty minutes later or so, THAT girl asks me what was the site dir.
It was my chance to start a conversation and try to do something to know her, but I just answered and kept on talking with my friend as a decent idiot.
She said I'm an asshole (my friend), in the nice way, and insisted a lot saying that I should go talk to the gal.
I didn't.

I feel like a jerk.

The same happened to me the day before yesterday, on a bus. This beautiful (REAAAALLY BEAUTIFUL) girl was at the same bus stop I was at.
She got into the same bus.
She was standing NEXT TO ME.
I didn't say a word.

Damn! what's wrong with me? I don't dare to talk to them,it has always been the same, I just don't seem to know what the fuck to say.
I think I'm going to be left as a fool and scare myself out as an idiot, and then regret not having talked to them.

Can someone help me out here?
How can I "fix" this?
 
just relax girls are people. just talk to them, be yourself. if your nervous just go, its not worth worrying about getting shot down, its a 50/50 shot at getting a date...If she says no fuck her find someone else its a bar the more drunk you get the better (you lose commonsense when your drunk and hot chick seem in your league and that seems to work).
 
You need good pickup lines, such as:

"Scream and I'll cut you."
"Don't make this rape turn into a murder"

Or, my personal favorite,

"Does this smell like chloroform to you?"
 
Talk to them like you've known them for years. Point out things that may be odd or amiss... people like to talk about shit like that. Then... just mature the conversation. Ask them if they like the band and what kind of music do they normally listen to.

Its really easy man. Like someone else said... they're just people man.
 
Here's a secret
Girls like when you call them at midnight and breathe heavily on the phone and then hang up.

But really, you could only benefit from that. Either from getting to know the chick or gaining experience in how NOT to approach a girl..
 
Yeah, they're just people, and that makes it worst because I do realize of the amount of stupidity in my shyness.
About getting drunk, the problem is that I'm a singer and therefore I can't drink much alcohol because of my throat and vocal cords, so usually, getting drunk is hard.
Yeah, complicated.



Lol, Hitman style.



Mmmm, have you tried them?
Heh, reactions must be funny.



It's simple enough I guess. The thing is that I get really nervous, but I'll remember this. Thanks!




A real perv. Actually, it must be quite disgusting, the first thought is that the guy on the phone is masturbating or something.
I should try out really, you're right, a yes or a no will only give me experience about it.
 
If you'd had me as a wing man, you'd have to throw rocks at them to keep all the beotches off of you.

Or you could stop worrying about it. Be yourself. Unless yourself is a dickhead. First off, stop thinking a woman is some kind of prize. A prize is something you can't wash after a night of whoring around. Secondly, when somebody is talking to you, stop what you are doing and pay attention. Make eye contact and don't act like they are wasting your time. No matter who is talking to you or if there is any prize to be had. Let me treat you like you ("you" meaning anybody) treat others and suddenly things take on a whole new perspective.

You've got one short, miserable life to live. Stop fucking around and geht on with it. Go after what it is you desire. Continue on your current course of self pity and wasting valuable time and the next thing you know you will be forty-something and living in a shitty neighborhood next to MaxPower.
 
To get treated by a rock star by beautiful girls, you need to believe you're a rock star. Don't worry about them at all, think about what makes you a person that they'd want to talk to. The more confidence you have, the less you have to try to strike up a conversation. It will come naturally. If you have a problem starting the conversation, just send her a drink. You were sitting close enough to see what she was drinking...

You say you're a singer in a band, but you're shy? That seems the opposite of the "front man" style that is usually associated with singers.
 
Yeah, i was a singer in a band, but I know I can sing well, that's the difference.
I just don't know what makes me nervous. As you all say, they're just girls and if they say no, I don't give a fuck.
I guess I just don't want to fuck up while talking to them.

About rubbing my penis on the girl... uhhh, is that a conversation or a fight starter? xD
My friends dont help much at it, btw, when we go out.
They act pretty childish and one of them is really ugly, not to be bad, but it's the truth.
There was this day when we were 3 in a bar, friend1, uglyfriend and me.
We decided to approach 3 girls that were around together, but they left because no one wanted to be with uglyfriend.

That sucked a lot, for friend1 and me, but mostly for uglyfriend. It fucked up his night.
 
Johnny was a schoolboy when he heard his first Beatle song,
'Love me do,' I think it was. From there it didn't take him long.
Got himself a guitar, used to play every night,
Now he's in a rock 'n' roll outfit,

And everything's all right, don't you know?

Johnny told his mama, hey, 'Mama, I'm goin' away. I'm gonna hit the big
time, gonna be a big star someday', Yeah.
Mama came to the door with a teardrop in her eye.
Johnny said, 'Don't cry, mama, smile and wave good-bye'.

Don't you know, yeah yeah, Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
Don't you know, don't you know. Don't you know that you are
a shooting star, And all the world will love you just as long,
As long as you are.

Johnny made a record, Went straight up to number one,
Suddenly everyone loved to hear him sing the song.
Watching the world go by, surprising it goes so fast.
Johnny looked around him and said, 'Well, I made the big time at last'.

Don't you know, don't you know, Don't you know that you are
a shooting star,
Don't you know, oh, yeah, Don't you know that you are
a shooting star, yeah,
And all the world will love you just as long,
As long as you are, a shooting star.

Don't you know that you are a shooting star, Don't you know, yeah,
Don't you know that you are a shooting star, now,
And all the world will love you just as long, As long you are you.

Johnny died one night, died in his bed, Bottle of whiskey,
sleeping tablets by his head. Johnny's life passed him by like a
warm summer day, If you listen to the wind you can still hear him play

Oh oh oh, Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
Don't you know, yeah, don't you know', Don't you know that
you are a shooting star,
Don't you know, yeah,
Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
Don't you, don't you,
don't you, don't you,
Don't you know, don't you
know, oh, yeah, you are,
Yeah, a shooting star, yeah, oh
oh oh oh oh......
Don't you, don't you know
that you are a shooting star,
Don't you don't you know......
 
Lol dude why are taking advice form GUYS? Take advice from a girl herself, be nice and be real, dont be all "heyy girls whats UP!?!" just be REAL, and P.S Dont say something thats totally halariouse to you that happened during the day. Its just gay lol.
 
dont talk to her stalk the fuck out her first

Find out what she drives, wait for her out in the parking lot, and tail her to see where she goes for a couple days. Use your moms or roommates car because you don't want to pick her up for a date in the car that's been following her around for the last 2 weeks.

This is very important-if you find out where she lives, stay the fuck away. If she has a husband or boyfriend he will come out to kick your ass or she'll call the cops. The cops can't do shit at Quizno's but they will pepper spray the fuck out of you in her apartment complex. Once you've made a list of 15-20 places she goes, pick one to meet her at and make it look like a coincidence.

She's typically going to go to a couple places:

Home (don't go there)
Work (don't go there either)
Get food
School

she's probably going to come from the mall or friends houses.

Anyway, start hanging out where she hangs out, and eventually you'll bump into her. Don't hang around too much because the fuckers at Starbucks will notice and will know whats up.

Once you see her, be friendly, maybe offer to pay for her coffee, tell her you remember her from where you first saw her, then start conversation but make sure you can randomly drop other information you know about it her in there. OH YOU GO TO BLOCKBUSTER TOO! THAT'S SO WEIRD!
 
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