I sincerely want to become social and mingle with friends... But...?

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bratty

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I am a 24 year old guy.
I am by nature a social person and not at all an introvert. I want to have a lot of friends and share all my thoughts and ideas with everyone.
But I am not very expressive in my thoughts/ideas on ANY day-to-day issues.
In addition, suppose the discussion starts veering towards girls or sex, I start getting nervous. I am a perfect straight man and have normal sexual thoughts, just as anyone else.
But, I can't express my views openly on girls, like " look at that girl, she's hot !!!" and stuff like that, even though I get the same feelings in my brain.
So, the friends call me cunning/unexpressive, and stuff like that.
Please....
Please help me friends, Please tell me how to get out of this funny yet serious problem.
It is really a problem I have been suffering from a long long time.
I JUST WANT TO BREAK THE HELL OUT OF IT.
Kindly suggest a way out. :)
@Kate... Sorry, actually by social I meant I don't keep aloof. I mix with people, sincerely want to take part in the conversations, but become tongue-tied. That's my exact problem. I somehow am unable to GET TALKING.
Some people find it so easy in talking themselves out. I am unable to express myself, though I resolve everyday to improve.
It actually made many friends of mine to hate me, as they don't think I'm truthful/trustworthy. It is that serious....

@iloveyhu It is excellent, what you told me is very kind and patient of you. Even though I understand my problem like crystal , I can't seem to help myself. :P :P
I'm actually worried mainly about the "girls" zone, the rest of the times, I manage to crack jokes and get along with them. :)
 
ok i had the same problem too(: just speak ur mind! dont be shyy! think about iht everyone does iht! all the famous people have done it! theirs nothing wrongg(: if u wanna do it, then do it!(: just think '' snookie and all those famous people do it'' or pinch urself untill u say it! if u wanna say it dont stop ur self, i hope i helped(:


edittt*** i hope i helpedd, do ur best to over comee this fear((:
 
You actually sound like a decent guy, Having these thoughts are normal as you said. Your only human.
Some girls do like hearing that there hot, sexy etc.
But a man who doesnt say these things all the time may actually be a bit more refreshing.
Just practice on your family, or even strangers you meet on telling personal things about yourself.

It really only is down to you. you can ask as many questions on here, go on loads of sites about this problem.

OR

you can choose an answer that really sticks out to you and use the advice given.
 
You actually sound like a decent guy, Having these thoughts are normal as you said. Your only human.
Some girls do like hearing that there hot, sexy etc.
But a man who doesnt say these things all the time may actually be a bit more refreshing.
Just practice on your family, or even strangers you meet on telling personal things about yourself.

It really only is down to you. you can ask as many questions on here, go on loads of sites about this problem.

OR

you can choose an answer that really sticks out to you and use the advice given.
 
You actually sound like a decent guy, Having these thoughts are normal as you said. Your only human.
Some girls do like hearing that there hot, sexy etc.
But a man who doesnt say these things all the time may actually be a bit more refreshing.
Just practice on your family, or even strangers you meet on telling personal things about yourself.

It really only is down to you. you can ask as many questions on here, go on loads of sites about this problem.

OR

you can choose an answer that really sticks out to you and use the advice given.
 
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