I saw my parents arguing last night. What can I do?

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I'm 13 and was adopted last year by my dads. I have two dads. I call one Dad and the other Did. they've been together for 5 years now but last night they were arguing really badly. I've never heard them argue before. They were arguing over something I had done. Yesterday evening, I went joy riding with two of my friends. I didn't really want to but they talked me into it. We got arrested and when Dad came to pick me up from the police station we were talking and we both got really wound up and I said some things I shouldn't and he slapped me. We've never argued before and they've never hit me before. Dad said sorry for hitting me and losing his temper but he said he was still mad about me getting arrested. Dad and Did last night were arguing about dad hitting me and they can't agree on how to punish me. They were arguing for ages and I'm worried they are going to split up. What can I do?
 
perhaps a family chat all together may sort a couple of problems you are all having and perhaps a few sorry`s all round may help, but having said all that i can understand the argument as you should not have been slapped! punishment yes but not a slap, if it happens again then perhaps you may need to speak with your social worker?
 
to prevent this from happening again do this:

when your alone with either one of your parents threaten to pick sides unless they stop fighting.
 
they just rowing it dont mean they going 2 split up

and he should not slap u i got hit abt i had enough and i moved out
so dont worry they will make up

just talk 2 them both and say im sorry wot happened they pushed me in the car and i had no say in the matter

so dont worry just bit ur tongue xxxx
 
let them know what you're thinking. tell them how youve been worried about them breaking up since you heard them fighting. tell them you don't care what punishment you get you just want to make sure they're okay and all. its really caring that even though you're in trouble and all you're still worrying about their relationship. i'm sure they'll understand and come together to make a decision on how to take care of you and stuff

hope i helped
 
There anger towards each other is simply a release of emotion because of what you have done.

Just imagine if you'd ended up dead!

Your fathers instant reaction to hit you, the argument, etc, i think you should start to accept that YOU caused this, this is your fault and then you might start to think about what also can happen when you go joy riding. (car stealing in other words!)

Your really were incredibly stupid and i'm happy to say that to you unlike some above who are just jockeying for your points.

YOU need to take ownership of what's happend, YOU need to sit each of them down and tell them your sorry, that you'll never do it again and mean it.
Only then can you start to repair the damage that's been done but even then this could go on for years, you really have destroyed the good and extremely rare relationship between them.
 
No matter what happens its not your fault. You need to talk to both of them and let them know your sorry and they need to come to some kind of punishment that you all can live with.
I'm sure your dad feels bad for hitting you. but also there needs to be some kind of consequence.for your actions.
You all need to let each other know how much you love each other. You also need to make better decisions and maybe pick healthier friends.
 
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