I said i want to just hang out with you and not have sex ..cant we just chill together,

Insight... Yes, you're in the wrong section.

Get rid of him, you're obviously lacking in self-confidence and he sure the hell isn't helping that problem.
 
Bring him to Bible studies classes. If there is a liberal synagogue, see if you cn sign up for classes in the book of Psalms. Just say you want to lean the stuff without any Christian influence
 
maybe eat something?..? and he's like.. well dont eat and you dont talk. Which i found odd because i talked more then him and i do eat i just feel shy to eat in front of a guy I really like.

But I do talk. He doesn't speak english very well and he said he wants to have deep conversations but cant because of his english level.

it hurts me that he says I dont talk! Now i feel pressured to talk more and its just hard for me.

any insight?
well you dont eat*
 
First you need to relax, and be yourself. If he is with you, it's because he finds you attractive. If he really wants to get to know you, then he will open up as you do. And, eating is a natural part of life, if he cares about you, he wont care how you eat, as long as you remember your manners, and don't chew with your mouth open, or talk with your mouth full. And, guys like a girl with hearty appetites, as long as they are not being a glutton. All relationships are work, you have to decide if the work is worth it. If all he is after is sex cut him loose, he only cares about himself. You'll know that if every time you turn around, he turns the conversation or alone time to sex. If he expects sex because he has spent time and money on you, then again all he cares about is himself.
 
I think we need to hear a tape of this session and we need to know where you are taking the time to chill. What do you have in common?

The way you have set this up; it sounds like the classic strange and wonderful relationship. The only question is which one of you is strange and which one is wonderful.

Perhaps you are star-crossed chillers, spiritually speaking.
 
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