...I want to take it slow too? We've been talking about this for more than a year now, and I wanna get something going. Its a lifestyle we both think is good, and were both too scared to get started. I joined sls but everyone on there seem like they hookup every other night lol thats not us were like soulmates who just wanna play and add something more! We want to go slow have drinks and make friends! I really wanna watch her with someone- thinking about her getting pleasured just really gets me excited! I know were married and some people think im just messed up in the head, but we;ve been together for 10 years since I was 17! what should I do???