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Recently I met this girl who I found to be pretty much amazing. I've never felt as strongly before about a girl as I do this one. It took some time so it wasn't a love-at-first-sight kind of thing, but the more I talked to her, the more I got to know her, the more I fell in love with her. She had a really positive influence on my life and helped me get out of a pretty depressed rut I was in at the time. It was the happiest and most optimistic I'd felt in a long time, considering my run of bad luck with romantic pursuits in the past. Anyway, I thought for sure I'd win her heart, that we'd be together. Everything felt so right. We talked all the time, and it never felt like a "friend zone" kind of friendship. It always felt a bit more flirty than that. For example, she'd always call me "amazing" or "hilarious", also referring to me as "becoming one of her favorite people" and "the most clever guy she knows". We often talked of going out on little ghost hunting trips together since we both have an interest in the paranormal. (We never did get around to doing so, sadly). We'd always text each other goodnight and occasionally we'd text in the morning too. I got her a stuffed animal for her birthday (a cat, since she loves cats so much) and she loved it, and told me she slept with it every night. I was on top of the world.
But because I've been burned in the past and am really shy and nervous, I never told her how I felt. I never asked her out. Eventually, mid-December, we started drifting apart and talking less. I don't know what happened, but it was so sudden. Out of nowhere. Nothing bad happened between us, in fact we were seemingly talking more than ever. Then we suddenly just stopped.
We still talked some throughout January but not nearly as much as we had been. Towards the end of the month it was even less common. Now, throughout this month, there's been practically zero communication. She ignored calls, ignored texts, despite responding to a few messages I'd leave her on Tumblr (ie, when she was sick I told her I hoped she got well soon, she thanked me, etc). But no real conversation.
I figured out through some posts she made (we both follow each other on Tumblr) that she liked a guy and he had broken her heart by turning her down. Something happened where he told her they couldn't be friends. It really got to her but she got over it. Maybe that had something to do with it all. I don't know. Anyway, a mutual friend I had talked to about her before apparently talked to her (despite me not asking her to, but whatever) and found out that apparently, she's been avoiding me since she's "just not interested that way", and wasn't sure what do do. (Despite thinking I'm a "really nice guy"). Which has been my ******* death knell time and time again. "Really nice guy".
I tried messaging her telling her I hope we can still be friends and whatnot, but she isn't responding. Yet she's still following me, still friends on Facebook, hasn't blocked me on AIM (I've seen her online, not tried to message her). What went wrong? Did I fail to make a move or was she just not interested from the start? I just want to talk to her and find out what happened. Have a nice, mature, respectful conversation about it. I wish to God she knew how I felt. Life felt more beautiful than it had in a long, long time because of her presence in it. And now I've ruined that and lost it, I fear. Is there any hope here at all? Is there no escape from the friend zone? I've never wanted someone as badly as I do her, and have never felt as happy because of someone due to her. Her influence helped me start to turn my life around from the dark spot I was in before we met. And she has no idea.
I have no clue what to do. I just want to know...It kills me keeping these things inside. I almost don't even care if letting her know makes her not want to ever talk again or whatever, I just want it to be out there. I can't stop thinking about her. She's everything I wanted to find, everything I wished I could find in a girl, and I did. And I messed it up. Is it ever too late? I've not really had much trouble dropping things in the past but this is different. It's kind of killing me. Is it at all possible to start again? To work things out? I'm so lost. So confused.
I just really want to keep the friendship and keep things open for us in the future. I really can't imagine two people who are so right for one another (we are, whether she wants to admit it or not) never getting together...
But because I've been burned in the past and am really shy and nervous, I never told her how I felt. I never asked her out. Eventually, mid-December, we started drifting apart and talking less. I don't know what happened, but it was so sudden. Out of nowhere. Nothing bad happened between us, in fact we were seemingly talking more than ever. Then we suddenly just stopped.
We still talked some throughout January but not nearly as much as we had been. Towards the end of the month it was even less common. Now, throughout this month, there's been practically zero communication. She ignored calls, ignored texts, despite responding to a few messages I'd leave her on Tumblr (ie, when she was sick I told her I hoped she got well soon, she thanked me, etc). But no real conversation.
I figured out through some posts she made (we both follow each other on Tumblr) that she liked a guy and he had broken her heart by turning her down. Something happened where he told her they couldn't be friends. It really got to her but she got over it. Maybe that had something to do with it all. I don't know. Anyway, a mutual friend I had talked to about her before apparently talked to her (despite me not asking her to, but whatever) and found out that apparently, she's been avoiding me since she's "just not interested that way", and wasn't sure what do do. (Despite thinking I'm a "really nice guy"). Which has been my ******* death knell time and time again. "Really nice guy".
I tried messaging her telling her I hope we can still be friends and whatnot, but she isn't responding. Yet she's still following me, still friends on Facebook, hasn't blocked me on AIM (I've seen her online, not tried to message her). What went wrong? Did I fail to make a move or was she just not interested from the start? I just want to talk to her and find out what happened. Have a nice, mature, respectful conversation about it. I wish to God she knew how I felt. Life felt more beautiful than it had in a long, long time because of her presence in it. And now I've ruined that and lost it, I fear. Is there any hope here at all? Is there no escape from the friend zone? I've never wanted someone as badly as I do her, and have never felt as happy because of someone due to her. Her influence helped me start to turn my life around from the dark spot I was in before we met. And she has no idea.
I have no clue what to do. I just want to know...It kills me keeping these things inside. I almost don't even care if letting her know makes her not want to ever talk again or whatever, I just want it to be out there. I can't stop thinking about her. She's everything I wanted to find, everything I wished I could find in a girl, and I did. And I messed it up. Is it ever too late? I've not really had much trouble dropping things in the past but this is different. It's kind of killing me. Is it at all possible to start again? To work things out? I'm so lost. So confused.
I just really want to keep the friendship and keep things open for us in the future. I really can't imagine two people who are so right for one another (we are, whether she wants to admit it or not) never getting together...