I realized I have a big problem with self image?

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A REALLY big problem. I think I annoy everyone I talk to and keep to myself a lot because I think that what I have to say wont matter..and I always find something wrong with my appearance everyday. I know I'm not bad looking, and people tell me I'm attractive in someway almost everyday, but I just do not see it.
I really need to fix this problem because all I ever think about anymore is what bad things people are thinking about me. All I ever think about is how much I annoy people and how much I don't matter to them and how much people are waiting on me to mess up so they can point out my flaws.
I know alot of it has to do with when I was younger, I got picked on every single day for multiple reasons, I mean I stand up for myself now and no one messes with me anymore, I just don't think highly of myself at all.

I just want to stop being so negative and be self confident.
Help me?
 
First you need to find out why you think what you say doesn't matter, because trust me, it matters a lot more than you think. To be honest, I have somewhat the same problem, and the only way to fix it is by finding your the source of your problem, and work from there.

One of the ways that I found useful was every night before you sleep, picture one of the moments where you had the same problem, and think about it for a couple of minutes and trust me, you will find out why you think you're annoying, while you're not.

Also before sleeping and after waking up, say "I'm gonna be confident today and (add in whatever you want)" a couple of times. For this to work though, you need to mean it and do it, not just say it.
 
I feel like that a lot of the time too. Compliments usually help, but since you said you get those a lot, then IDK. Just trust in who you are as a person inside and out
 
i know exactly how you feel.
i really dont like myself at all either i would get picked on a lot when i was younger. People say im really pretty, and then some people think im ugly blah blah....etc.
i wish i had an answer for the both of us
 
You need to realize that what other people think doesn't matter.
I don't intend for this to sound mean - but more than likley people are not looking at you or thinking anything about you. Most people are pretty self absorbed and are to into themselves to notice others around them.

As for your appearance or what you are wearing - unless you are dressing in some outrageous way - people probably don't really notice.
Not in a way like "oh wow did you see what she had on that was so (fill in the blank)" and even if they do who cares? I wear jeans and tees most of the time. I don't care if somebody else likes it. It's comfortable and I like it so that's all that counts.

I do realize that self esteem issues are not that easy to get over.
And things that happen when we are kids can stick with us for a lifetime. You can be a strong independent person if you choose to be.
And then others will see you in that same way.

Don't let other people decide what you think about yourself.
YOU decide what you think about yourself.
 
First you need to find out why you think what you say doesn't matter, because trust me, it matters a lot more than you think. To be honest, I have somewhat the same problem, and the only way to fix it is by finding your the source of your problem, and work from there.

One of the ways that I found useful was every night before you sleep, picture one of the moments where you had the same problem, and think about it for a couple of minutes and trust me, you will find out why you think you're annoying, while you're not.

Also before sleeping and after waking up, say "I'm gonna be confident today and (add in whatever you want)" a couple of times. For this to work though, you need to mean it and do it, not just say it.
 
Try to remember a moment in which you felt at your prime, as if you were almost indestructible, and hold on to that memory.

That is the epitome of your self-image, at it's strongest and most beneficial state.

If you can do this, then all you have to do is understand the difference between then and now.

If you can't, try harder. If you still can't do it, then it's down to you to make some memories by experiencing the world.
 
the same exact thing happened to me. then i realized that God loves you for who you are & he made you like you for a reason. it seems like its what's outside that counts but it's really not.
 
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