i need major help on this "long distance"relashionship!!!?

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Alex

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ohkays so im 14 and mybf is 18, its not a bad relashionship but..
problems:
-i dont have my licens and he thinks i do
-my parents dont know and cant find out
-if i tell my frinds theyll think im a total freak:/
-i cant let him down about hanging out again

biggest problem..he wants to hangout this weekend or sometime this week.

i know being 14 and allhaving an 18 y.o bf,but that none of your buisness so please dont nag about that.
i need help because i cant let him down and he thinks ill be able to drive over to his house:/ this would all be easier if my parents werent so strict but if they find out theyll ground me and like kick my azz so plase help me!wut do i doooo?

ps im going to a concert on wednesday,how do i meet up with him without dragging around my friends and my mom knowing?
im 14 and ido know alot about life ive been in many long distance relashionships and im not 2 so plz dont comment on stupid things aswell, and no im not lieing to him again nunyah
 
You're not going to want to hear this, but I'm going to say my piece anyway.

... He thinks you have a license? I don't know about your state, but I know in NY you can't even get your PERMIT until you're 16. If you've lied about your age, stop. Not many 18-year-old men will romantically connect with a 14-year-old girl without ulterior motives. Just saying.

And even if you didn't lie about your age, you lied about having a license. If you ever want a lasting relationship, take this advice:

DON'T lie to your boyfriend, DON'T lie to your parents about your boyfriend, and NEVER keep a relationship secret. These things make your friends and family feel like you don't trust them, and they tend to make your boyfriend feel like you're ashamed of your relationship.

You sound very immature, not that much maturity is expected from a 14-year-old. Still, the fact that you won't tell your parents, you lie to your boyfriend, and you're worried about what your friends will think tell me you're not ready for a relationship, especially not a serious or committed one. Forget about what you're going to tell him or how you're going to manage seeing him. I would end it now, simply because of the way you're treating this whole thing. If this continues, I don't see your relationship lasting very long at all.

Furthermore, you better not be having sex with him because that's illegal- he could easily go to jail and be labeled a sex offender for the rest of his life, all because you decided to be stupid about it.

It is true that age doesn't matter... but that's when the youngest of the pair is a consenting adult (18 years of age or older). Given that you're not legally allowed to make decisions for yourself, you really shouldn't be involved with someone too much older. This part has nothing to do with your maturity level... if your parents don't like you being together, they could easily get him into a lot of trouble. That's why you don't begin seeing the 4+ year age differences so much until you're out of high school (or damn close).
 
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