Natasha Nishan
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my side or my mom's side..help me? this is an email message i got from my cousin:
What you have to understand is that very few people will appreciate and understand your misery and sympathize from their heart! Other will only ridicule.......Maybe we’ll get to talk about it in detail, very soon
this is my reply;
I posted everything on fbook because there is a lot going on in life which I could not keep to myself and due to the current recession here in the U.S. , its hard for me to get over my parents divorce after 13 years. The recession is causing a lot of financial problems for everyone and their families.Several students my age are either single mothers or married. They ask me why I am not married and why I dont have kids. The state of California is sinking and the economy is getting worse. Lately, there has been a lot of crime.
People were teasing me because all I do in life is visit my dad and don't really get to do anything for fun.
I am hurt by the fact that when I want to spend time with my mom, she says she doesnt have any time off from her job. She's leaving for India by herself on the 29th and I am really hurt that she has all the time for vacation and doesn't want to include me. Her company only has four employees. She told me that her company cut her vacation time and her hours. In my opinion, she should be happy she still has a job and should focus more on that. I am going through a lot of financial hardship and I need her support. There are no jobs that will work around my schedule and my dad is still on disability leave from his job. As of now, he only goes part time.
At this point, I am really worried about my future. I am expected to graduate next year either in March or May and I will be searching for employment for a long period of time. The Medical Field is really affected.
my cousin's reply:
Yes, I know my sister is a tough girl!
Let me also tell you that al of us are going through phases full of frustrations, challenges and sorrows. We all have our quota- god has given it to us and only he can give you the strength to come out of them.
Do remember him as often as you can.
Those who tease you often can never be relied upon as friends- they are more of foes and be careful of them. Single mother is not a happy state to be in-you will regret it more – god forbid if you ever had to get into that state!
What you need to relaise is that they don’t have families and relatives- you are fortunate to have a mom, dad and a sister and they all care for you. Caring is not always being together – we all need our space and free time. Maybe after couple of years you will realize this. We all go through this ugly, lonely and desolate phase of life …… then only will you realize the small things in which to find happiness and content.
I repeat- what doesn’t kill will only make you stronger……. Focus on your studies , prey to the all mighty and engage in music -- you are a good singer --sharpen your skills and wait for the right moment to attack te wicked world.
Cheers and look forward to meeting you soon enough
what is my cousin trying to say..what point is he trying to make..does it seem like he is on my mom's side or my side..if possible, is he going to help me out and talk to people...
please be honest and reasonable with your answers....when my cousin used the quote, "What doesnt kill you makes you stronger", was he referring to single mothers or was he saying that i should let my mom go to india by herself..what is my cousin saying about caring...everyone knows if my mom goes to india and continues to take time off from her job when her company has only four employees, she will get fired....can someone help me by being reasonable and sending me their avice and opininon..
what would u do in a position where all of ur friends are making fun of your mom for being such a show-off...when i tell people she's going to india by herself, they're like,"OMG! YOUR MOM IS STUPID!!! i mean her boss was upset with her for going to europe last year and now her boss will be upset she's going to india..no one realizes that my dad cant financially support me by himself..the only place my parents divorce let me in life is getting treated like a baby and my mom letting my dad get his way in life and my sister siding with my parents..that doesnt lead me anywhere in life..why cant someone just understand what i am going through
http://parenting247.org/article.cfm?ContentID=646
http://www.mediate.com/articles/psych.cfm
http://web4health.info/pl/child-divorce-gen.htm
What you have to understand is that very few people will appreciate and understand your misery and sympathize from their heart! Other will only ridicule.......Maybe we’ll get to talk about it in detail, very soon
this is my reply;
I posted everything on fbook because there is a lot going on in life which I could not keep to myself and due to the current recession here in the U.S. , its hard for me to get over my parents divorce after 13 years. The recession is causing a lot of financial problems for everyone and their families.Several students my age are either single mothers or married. They ask me why I am not married and why I dont have kids. The state of California is sinking and the economy is getting worse. Lately, there has been a lot of crime.
People were teasing me because all I do in life is visit my dad and don't really get to do anything for fun.
I am hurt by the fact that when I want to spend time with my mom, she says she doesnt have any time off from her job. She's leaving for India by herself on the 29th and I am really hurt that she has all the time for vacation and doesn't want to include me. Her company only has four employees. She told me that her company cut her vacation time and her hours. In my opinion, she should be happy she still has a job and should focus more on that. I am going through a lot of financial hardship and I need her support. There are no jobs that will work around my schedule and my dad is still on disability leave from his job. As of now, he only goes part time.
At this point, I am really worried about my future. I am expected to graduate next year either in March or May and I will be searching for employment for a long period of time. The Medical Field is really affected.
my cousin's reply:
Yes, I know my sister is a tough girl!
Let me also tell you that al of us are going through phases full of frustrations, challenges and sorrows. We all have our quota- god has given it to us and only he can give you the strength to come out of them.
Do remember him as often as you can.
Those who tease you often can never be relied upon as friends- they are more of foes and be careful of them. Single mother is not a happy state to be in-you will regret it more – god forbid if you ever had to get into that state!
What you need to relaise is that they don’t have families and relatives- you are fortunate to have a mom, dad and a sister and they all care for you. Caring is not always being together – we all need our space and free time. Maybe after couple of years you will realize this. We all go through this ugly, lonely and desolate phase of life …… then only will you realize the small things in which to find happiness and content.
I repeat- what doesn’t kill will only make you stronger……. Focus on your studies , prey to the all mighty and engage in music -- you are a good singer --sharpen your skills and wait for the right moment to attack te wicked world.
Cheers and look forward to meeting you soon enough
what is my cousin trying to say..what point is he trying to make..does it seem like he is on my mom's side or my side..if possible, is he going to help me out and talk to people...
please be honest and reasonable with your answers....when my cousin used the quote, "What doesnt kill you makes you stronger", was he referring to single mothers or was he saying that i should let my mom go to india by herself..what is my cousin saying about caring...everyone knows if my mom goes to india and continues to take time off from her job when her company has only four employees, she will get fired....can someone help me by being reasonable and sending me their avice and opininon..
what would u do in a position where all of ur friends are making fun of your mom for being such a show-off...when i tell people she's going to india by herself, they're like,"OMG! YOUR MOM IS STUPID!!! i mean her boss was upset with her for going to europe last year and now her boss will be upset she's going to india..no one realizes that my dad cant financially support me by himself..the only place my parents divorce let me in life is getting treated like a baby and my mom letting my dad get his way in life and my sister siding with my parents..that doesnt lead me anywhere in life..why cant someone just understand what i am going through
http://parenting247.org/article.cfm?ContentID=646
http://www.mediate.com/articles/psych.cfm
http://web4health.info/pl/child-divorce-gen.htm