I know it's weird that I'm asking this on Yahoo but I guess I have to. How should...

[friend of a friend]

...I like help someone die? I feel weird talking about this on Yahoo but it's weird because I can't really talk to any of the people I know.

So my best friend is dying and has been for the past few months, and his family is making him feel really guilty about it. I understand that, but it's making him miserable and it's not going to stop him from dying. It has prolonged it, I think. But once when his family was out of the room, he was crying and telling me he had no idea what to do.

We're both only sixteen and we're like brothers. He's been my best friend since elementary school. I never had a better friend, and he's dying and it's the worst thing that's ever happened to me. But I don't want him to stay alive longer just out of guilt. He told me about how his mom tells him stuff about how if he dies and leaves them their lives would be ruined and he can't do that to him, don't they love him... they say that a lot to him, apparently, and it's so tough on him with being sick and everything.

I really love him and I know it sounds awful but the doctors say there's really nothing left for them to do, that we're all just waiting around, and I want him to die happily and know that everyone loves him and nobody's mad at him.

Anyway, I have no one to talk to and I got sent home from being at the hospital for a couple days and I can't sleep anyway so I'm just posting on a bunch of places so maybe I can talk to some people about it. I don't even know if I have a real set question. Just the question in the title, I guess. I don't know what I can do for him.

 

[ellyj15]

Talk to his family. Maybe they don't know how much they are hurting your friend by telling him that "their lives will be ruined" if he leaves. If the doctor's say that there is nothing that they can do for him then his family needs to understand that he's either going to leave unhappy because they made him feel guilty or happy because they at least accepted the fact that the doctor's cannot help anymore.

 

[Dede]

His mom said that out of a desire to create him to have stronger will to live... some how she thought she could guilt him into recovery.. but here is your part... advise him it is okay to let go... God will be waiting for him... Tell him it is okay to go... we will all understand on the other side.

 

[Bella Italiana]

You really have done enough just by being there. You are so strong for standing by him and helping him through this tough time. Really let him know you care. Be with him, more than you already have. You are brave and so is he, you are a good friend. His family is sad and you need to understand their side too, no one wants a loved one to be taken away from them. Do as much as you can to help. His family does love him, sadness can make people say things that sound awful. All you can do is be with him while he waits. He wont die unloved and hated, he will die peacefully with his family and you by his side. God bless you and your friend.

 

[Allen Webstar]

I found the similar question earlier but in this case he is male. she was female. i gave him best answer i feel, i hope you also like it. Just make it opposite...

 

[Jodi]

Honestly, talk to his family about it. Maybe they do not realize they are making matters worse. It is hard for a family to see someone they love die and that they cant do anything. As for your friend, just be the best friend you can be. Be there for him. Cause sweetie honestly, i know it sucks but it's all you can do.