I kicked my DH out

[sdjansen]

I finally kicked my husband, well actually we are not married but we have been together 10 years, out of my house. I did it on friday. He is completely strung out on oxy's and xanax. He has been using for years but has been completely out of control for about 6 months. I was in complete denial. I kept thinking he would stop when things got better. We lost our business and we are facing foreclosure on the house. It has been an extremely stressful year. I kept giving him excuses and I finally snapped. He got into an accident with our son in the car, thank god no one was hurt. I cannot forgive myself for allowing him to drive. It was so hard to tell when he was high lately. I thought he was OK, which is so stupid because he didnt come home until 6:00am and of course had some stupid excuse, lie after lie. Well I told him to get the hell out. I am so scared though because I have 2 small kiRAB and we are late on the mortgage. I am a student pursuing a nursing degree but I am many years away. My mother told me to go get on welfare and food stamps. I am so angry right now. I feel like he was so weak to let himself get to this point. He also left a huge bottle of xanax and some other white pills in my closet. i want to get rid of it before he tries to come get it, I just dont know what to do with it. All this a week before christmas. he actually called me and asked if he could come over to the house on christmas morning to see the kiRAB. i immediatly though no but what about the kiRAB? that would wqnt to see their dad on christmask, I am so mad.

 

[mel486]

Good for you for kicking him out! You did the right thing. You need to put yourself and your kiRAB first and keep them out of harm's way. KiRAB learn from what they see and if they see him using and high all of the time, they will learn from that.

But, he does have a right to see the kiRAB from time to time. Make him abide by certain conditions that he cannot be high when he sees them and that his time with them will be supervised. Never let him drive with the kiRAB in his car unless he goes through detox treatment. Hopefully he will see what is happening and will understand that he neeRAB help and will seek treatment.

Good Luck to you!

 

[flintrock]

Maybe he neeRAB to know he could lose the right to see the kiRAB if he keeps this up. i'd say when you can test negative for drugs, you can see the kiRAB!! I have experience with the xanax...bad stuff....horrible withdrawals. he neRAB rehab..no money? there are places to go for help. My son is on day 17 sober...in rehab, doing the 12 step program and I can't tell you what a difference it is....those pills will be the bottom for you all...tell him he has to get help or don't call