I have failed at life...

Kitana. There is more to a relationship than sex. Men are stupid about sex. Many men stray, and yet, they really don't want to be straying, they stupidly feel something is missing even if it's right there in front of them. Just because a man is an asshole doesn't mean YOUR the failure. It could well be him and his crazy penis. The whole thing could just be some online e-sex thing, and not involve real life at all.

Talk to him, but don't start screaming at him. If you act all crazy he'll for sure do something stupid. Just talk to him. If he is a super dick, then it may be time for you to move on. I'm sorry if that's the case. New situations can be scary, I've done them several times.

The main thing is simply this, you're only a failure if you give up on life altogether. I've done it, I know. I've come back from so Fucking far out you wouldn't believe me, but I made it. You can too. There are things worth doing in this shitty world. Sometimes it seems that there is only darkness, you need to make the difference in your life.

I can only hope it's not as bad as you think.
 
I agree. Any moderators around: this thread should probably be removed NOW. Whoever Kitana is in real life, she will probably not want a whole bunch of strangers reading about stuff she posted while upset. Just leave a msg making sure she is ok...

Don't know what else to say... mods: remove this thread.
 
Why should she feel bad for airing this on a "public" board? Jesus christ people this board is for exactly this kind of thing. Ranting about something you feel like, when you feel like it. The only way she'll feel bad about it later is if a bunch of dicks come on and offer the opposite of sympathy. She's mulling over what she wants to do. Do you all know her personally? NO. So just leave that shit off.

You tell us anything you want Kitana. Sort out your thoughts. Ask for advice and filter out the trash.

Fuck the stupid ass internet is one of the few places outside of your own mind you can tell the whole fucking truth if you want. People are just too fucking complicated in real life.
 
Nobody said she should feel bad.
But what is put out on the internet can be viewed as fodder. How would she feel if some arsehole comes and uses it to flame her in B&T? What if someone brings it up 3 months down the line when she would rather they didn't?

If you are so desperate to know the sordid details then PM her. I am sure her friends have already taken into private where it cannot remain to hurt her again and again.

Sheesh some people :rolleyes:
 
Well sure some people are assholes, I give you that. I don't need details, she's obviously hurting and maybe wanted some comfort. If someone uses it later we can blast them apart in B&T. The last thing she needs is to think, "Great now I fucked up even more by putting this here!" When that is not the case.
 
Kitana has been here over a year, and used to be a mod here, she has posted things on this forum loads of times, as Im sure she doesnt mind posting this here, it was her desicion even though she is upset, She has no one else to talk to.
 
We shall have to agree to disagree there.

I don't think she should need minders to blast someone for using public information in a flame section. Flaming is a nasty little game,but the main rule is not to use RL info UNLESS it is on a public domain. Therefore I think it is kinder to say take it in private than to relish details that may be used against her at a later date. Kitana enjoys flaming and as such would be well aware of the risks this sort of disclosure entail.Remember, it doesn't bother her to use what she has gleaned in B&T either and with quite a bit more venom than I would associate with a 'game'.

It is pretty damned obvious that she is hurting, but that is exactly the time to get out of a public place. The vulnerable do things they regret. It looks like that is exactly what she has done, and the nicest thing would be to delete the entire thread.
 
She was also pretty incoherent. The obvious conclusion being that she was not thinking straight or aware of the possible consequences of the post.

This is her marriage, not an e-relationship gone wrong. Regardless of what happens, or what is in store, it is not for a public board.
 
And that is your opinion...

Kit, I know we have had our disagreements in the past. But in all honesty I really hope you get through this. I am sorry your husband, the one you defended so much with all of your heart and love hurt you this way.

I think the best way to deal with any situation is to confront it without fears. Kit, he didn't MAKE YOU. You don't need him to continue living your life. In the case you two do work it out, I hope you know how to forget, because forgiving is one thing. But forgetting is so much harder!!

Good luck Kit. We are here for you.
 
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