I have a weird issue when it comes to guys?

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Meowsrawr

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I don't know what it is, I seriously hate having them look at me. Instead of becoming flattered when they start checking me out, I wish they'd look away, and I become uneasy. I don't have the same sort of issue when a guy looks at me to talk to me, just when I'm being checked out (I guess maybe I don't like being looked at like an object? I don't know).

I do have a bunch of confidence issues, and I am especially shy around guys, but this problem is seriously getting to me. Today, I couldn't bring myself to even look at guys when I was out.

People have suggested this before, and I'm not a lesbian. I do like guys, and honestly I can't stand most girls. I just get so uncomfortable around guys.

I did go through a bit of abuse when I was younger (mostly physical, but some verbal and psychological abuse), and I've never really had positive male figures in my life (my dad died when I was young). Thankfully, I haven't turned to sex and objectifying myself like most girls in my position, but I want to get over the anxiety and awkwardness I feel.
 
It's probably a good thing in your circumstance to keep that distance until you feel ready to pursue an interested man. It's definitely not a bad thing and like you say if they are genuinely wanting to have a conversation with you it's not an issue. You are obviously attractive if you are generating comments so just be nice and say thanks then change the subject. When the right guy comes along for you everything will feel "right" and you won't have an issue with him so just continue with what you're doing, which is all the right things. Well done. :)
 
Haha, I'm kinda the same too, I DO NOT THINK YOUR A LESBO, but I think you have a very low self-esteem when it comes to guys, just relax, they are just people, you just dont know how to act in front of them because you dont come in contact with talktin to them and stuff (me too) so relax and go on with your life, its just you, thats just the way you act, but as life progressis, you might become more social and be like w/e and be cool with it.
 
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