I have a problem with my friend(and also want to rant)?

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So, ive been friends with this girl for 15 years, We separated when I moved away to go to school and she stayed in our home town. But over the last few years we've been very much in contact and I moved back to the city I grew up in. She's got a 3 year old child now.

The thing is, i'm really worried about both her and the baby. All they do is sit in all day and eat chocolate and watch tv. All day. All the kid eats is fries and chocolate and they stay in their jammies all day. My friend hated school so she keeps talking about how her daughter doesn't need to focus in school cuz they treat you terribly in schools these days. She won't get her involved in playgroups or day care cuz she doesn't want anyone treating her badly.

Also, the kids dad is never in the picture, he's there for like a week and then he goes off for months and doesn't even contact her or give her money. then he comes back and expects everything to be okay again. recently I managed to talk my friend into learning to drive so she could get out more and then the last time her "boyfriend" came back he told her he wanted another baby and now she thinks this is a great idea!
I know he just wants her to be at home all the time and he saw that she was getting out and decided to put a stop to it. But she thinks that this is a great idea!!

Why is she so stupid?? She doesn't seem to be aware that she can have a better life! I can't talk to her family cuz they're exactly the same as her, her parents marriage is basically the same.

What can i do??
 
Hello. I would suggest number to butt out but this a big thing so dont ! No matter what ! Speak to a docter about this and the social welfare if the child isnt going to school at all . Explain that the curriculm in scholls is much better these days ! Trust me !! Let me know how it goes
 
that's some bad stuff right there...

have her do school online, and get her involved in an activity, sport, music or SOMETHING.

as for the "bf" thing... tell her she's being stupid. tell her what you think.
 
Sounds to me like she's depressed. And also uneducated in how to feed and raise her child. And to bring another child into that situation would just be the worst thing she could do ever! You should say that she should put herself in her childs shoes and ask if she would like her boyfriend as her father! Because if she does that honestly, i bet you the answer is no. If she still fails to see this and continues on then there's pretty much nothing you can do about it. People have to live their own lives, you can't change them if they don't want to be changed. It's sad, and i've lost a few friends because of similar things, but you just have to realise that not everyone wants to be saved and they are on a self destruct mission in life. What i would say is, it might be worth staying in contact just to check up on those kids, because they're going to need some possitive influence in their lives.
 
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