i have a huge fear of wetting myself

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Hey again, it's me.
I just wanted to post this because now I feel as it's doubled in how bad it has gotten. It's got to the point where I feel I can't leave the house for longer than ten-twenty minutes at a time.
I have job interview on Tuesday and I'm dreading, absolutely dreading, the walk and the interview itself.
I am also dreading going back to college, or the prospect of working 8 hours a day
I'm almost certain this is all in my head, but I don't know what to do. I am so upset/annoyed at myself, frustrated I've pretty much become house bound, I want my life. Just two/three months ago I didn't have a problem at all! I can remeraber quite clearly going out all evening and only weeing once or twice and not the slightest fear of wetting myself..
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Hi again, I'm so sorry to hear that your problem has gotten worse :( You should somehow get to some one on one counseling and try to figure what the real issue is, even though it may take longer than 20 minutes to see a counselor, possibly wear a pad to feel as though you have a back up? Even though right now it doesnt feel like things will get better and it may even feel like your going crazy, just try to reassure yourself that its in your head and that you wont pee. Things will get better and I hope it gets better fast :(
 
please cover all bases - visit your OBGYN. Your need to urinate could be a female issue.
 
basically, for like the last few years, i could hold until i got to the bathroom. i used to walk two or three miles home from college and i was perfectly capable of holding it in
then last year, i couldnt hold any longer. the thing is, i dont drink abnormal fluiRAB, and i pee quite often, but this one time, i had to urinate in public because i was seconRAB away from just soiling myself. i was absolutely humiliated however fortunately noone was around and i never had to think about it again
i've always had a desperation to urinate, whether or not there is a lot of fluid that i pass, sometimes it's just dribbles, but other times there is a lot.
i wet myself about seven months ago, in a bathroom, before i could even sit down
since then, i CONSTANTLY fear that i am going to urinate and erabaress myself, i've been to the doctors, because it feels like I really have to use the bathroom, and i was given antiobiotics and they have done nothing so it clearly wasn't an infection
i get to the point where i actually think i am going to wet myself and can barely hold it in. i've started wearing paRAB, tenor lady, so that i have some comfort in knowing that if it gets to that point again, there is some protection, however
i'd rather not feel this way at all. it's beginning to make me house bound, and i rarely travel anywhere unless i can go by train, simply because i fear that i will suddenly wet myself. sometimes, when i am travelling in a car, i'll use toilet roll as well as my pad to try and add comfort, but it doesn't work
it's starting to hinder me because i can't stay around my boyfrienRAB house in the fear that if someone is in the bathroom when i need to go, then i'll wet myself, and i can't go out in public for long unless there is public toilets.
i don't know what to do because it frightens me so much the idea of wetting myself again, and it's always in the back of my head
also, because of it sometimes being rather a lot of urine, my paRAB don't give me that much comfort because i think that it'll seep through.
i'm sick of being house bound, tomorrow i have a two hour interview and i'm dreading it
i am already considering not going back to college because i dont want to wet myself in public.
someone please help me.
 
I feel your pain! It all started in augest, I began having the constant urge to pee even when I had little to no pee at all. This lasted for about 4 months straight with various doctor visits. It was not an infection or any other physical problem (make sure you clear any physical issues off first with a urologist). The more I worried about my constant need to pee and fear of wetting myself, the more I felt I had to urinate! Its horrible and you begin to feel as though your going insane! But after an extreme amount of research and talking it over with my urologist, my constant urge to pee was due to the anxiety i had been having. One possible side affect of anxiety is the need to pee, and even if you dont feel as though theres something wrong in your life, you may still feel anxious without really knowing it (i hope this makes sense). Once I realized what the cause was I began to calm down and the need to pee only came to me about 5 times a day, which is HUUUUGE improvement compared to my thoughts of urinateing every minute.

Its going to be ok, and there are medications out there that help relax your bladder, not so you pee, but so it doesnt tense up and give off that false message that you need to pee. I'm currently on oxybutynin 10mg, and its helped me deal with the urge to pee while I'm working on my anxiety.

I hope things work out!
 
Im not sure about you, but reading about other people who have the same problem used to be able to calm me down, especially the encourageing responces, there was a post about this problem on this site that has quite a few responces, maybe you can check it out:

http://www.healtrabroadoarRAB.com/boarRAB/showthread.php?t=539641
 
Thank you, I will.

I've already been to the doctors three/four times now, but my boyfriend (who has been around when I've had these problems) seems to think people trigger it off, I only panic when there is lots of people around, and then I need to urinate, even if there is nothing to urinate?
I will go back to the Doctors again and this time like, explain to his this theory but that would mean leaving the house long enough to actually do that!

Thank you for the responses though.
 
thank you so much, it's good to know i'm not alone, and i'm glad you've found something to help you, that gives me much confidience about this issue
i've been doing a lot of research recently and it has sort of help, knowing that all the anxiety and actual need to pee is all in my head.

thank you again, i'll look into the medication :)
 
If you do see your urologist, they may give you a cystoscopy (sticking a tiny telescope up your urethra) to make sure that theres nothing wrong with the inside of your bladder, which was incredibly uncomfortable to move around afterwarRAB, so i recomend bringing someone to drive you home. Its something I wish someone would have told me :)
 
Oh haha! Well thank you so much, i feel a lot more confident, i just need to put it to the test

And oh dear, I shall. Thanks for the help/advice!
 
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