I hate my sister-in-law...?

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I just found out (like half an hour ago) that my sister-in-law is pregnant.
Now, of course I'm happy for her, but in the same moment I HATE HER FOR IT. She is such a great person and I'm really happy for her and my husband's brother - but REALLY!? Why her and not me?
She said they weren't even trying!!
My husband and I have been trying for a little over 2 years. I have PCOS and Endometriosis so it's really hard for us. I'm starting fertility treatment tomorrow but what's to say it's going to work?
I'm just so beside myself and angry and can't stop grinding my teeth.

Is this normal... to hate a family member over pregnancy jealousy?!
Has anyone ever experienced this?!

I don't want to sound like a b ...itch but I can't be genuinely happy for them. I can't.
EDIT:
She knows we're trying and usually she's so nice to me - but it's like she was rubbing it in my face tonight. I'm so upset...
Just like I know about 20 people who have had babies in the past year/who are pregnant right now - and I can't stand it either.

What's wrong with me?!
 
This is normal. You will feel better about everything tomorrow. It is good to get angry and let it out. The more deeply you feel the emotion, without harming yourself or anyone, the more quickly you move out of it. For sure, it must be so difficult for you, you are up against a lot, but there still is hope for you. Don't give up and remember if you wish to conceive it is good to be around pregnant women and babies as this can help to stimulate your hormones. Take a look at discovering your ovulation pattern on the page below and make sure you are taking the highest quality prenatal vitamin and mineral, usually found at a health food store so that you can begin to establish a good healthy platform for pregnancy. More ideas below. Best, G
 
Nothing is wrong with you, fertility issues can be frustrating. It's very hard to want something so badly that seems so simple and everyone around you is getting what you want. Well first off, understand that getting pregnant is not easy for anybody despite the fact that it often seems that way. A woman's body happens to be a very hostile environment toward sperm. My husband and I tried for 2 years this time and it happened fairly unexpectedly when we had pretty much resigned ourselves to the fact that we were not meant to have another child. I didn't get angry at other women who were pregnant though, it just made me sad. Different people have different emotions about it. I pray that your treatments will be successful and that you'll get the child you want. In the mean time, don't rain on another mother's joy, no matter how miserable their happiness makes you. You're time will come even it means adoption.
 
I have the same problem. That bastard PCOS and everyone else around me getting knocked up. We should start our own Yahoo Group just to B**** about everyone who is getting pregnant besides us LOL
 
Wow.. I'm pregnant and my boyfriends brother and his girlfriend has been trying and it won't happen. And, their very jealous of it. But for you, I would be upset also. But God has a plan, if it's meant to happen it will happen. Good luck!
 
I understand exactly where you are coming from. My husband and I want nothing more than to have a child, and it seems like everyone around us is having a baby besides us. I had a friend (and I say had for a reason) who just had a baby. She wasn't trying, has a horrible mean boyfriend, doesn't have a penny to her name, drank and smoked hookah through a good chuck or pregnancy, and went to parties. I tried to be happy for her but once she started to rub it in my face, and yes she was rubbing it in my face to be mean I couldn't take it anymore.
I'm very sorry for what you are going through and you are not alone!
Lots of baby dust to you!!
 
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