i had sex with my friend/pontenial roommate?

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ive known this girl for about 6 months, i always found her attractive and really cool, we started hanging out pretty often and during that time we were looking to get a place together. so one night i stayed over her place and i ended up sleeping on the same bed with her, i HONESTLY had no intentions to sleep with her. but i guess i made a move and it happend. we both talked about what happend after and she said its not going to change anything and that we both dont want anything more or start labeling anything, so we both agreed. well after that we got a lil close every once in a while but still nothing serious. so i asked her how she really feels and she said that its "only in the moment" when she likes to get close kiss hold etc. any suggestions?
 
It happens kiddo, and then everyone grows up and realizes life isn't exactly like a episode of Miley Cyrus.
 
She put out because she wants you to be roommates, and will slowly make YOU pay her rent, etc. because you'll think you're gonna get some more if you do.She has no intention of ever giving it up again, just using it to string you along and use you
 
its a tough one. mixing friendship with pleasure is almost never good. i been there. someone ends up having a feelings, and someone doesnt. or jealousy arrises. its important to have a line when you close friends with someone. especially if you are going to be roomies too. what happens when she brings a guy over, or you bring a girl. i would just say, lets just be friends. no one make anymore moves. and just appreicate and love each other as friends.
 
go with it..thats great ''not a girlfriend and not a lover...just plain old sex when your home alone and she's a roommate...cant ask for much more ,your in a great spot....
 
I agree it happens she is just using you for sex, if your okay with that its cool keep going but if your not and want something more then find someone else who wants a relationship.
 
Well do you like her?She might only be saying that because she doesnt want to sound to keen.If you like her make a move,if not leave it be.
 
I've had the same thing, only minus the moving in together part. For a while it just felt really awkward whenever I was with her afterwards. But after a couple months passed, it wasn't nearly as awkward anymore. But moving in together could potentially make it even more awkward.
 
Sex changes everything! YOu need to be very honest with her. It sounds like you guys might end up in the same bed everynight. There's no way you're going to be able to date other people while you live with her. YOu may want to reconsider the living arrangement.
 
enjoy it while you can. I just went threw the same thing with my neighbor. Great chick, always had fun, amazing sex, while the whole time she didn't want anything and had the anything goes attitude. No we live together and I can't do shit without never hearing the end of it! I can't get away from this girl! Soooo..... ENJOY it while it last!
 
If you want a relationship with her, you are only going to get hurt. If you don't mind the casual "in the moment" thing, then you could move in with her.There are a few things you need to think about first...What if she brings a guy home? What if you bring a girl home?Will you be able to put an end to it? Will someone get hurt?She's open to talking about it, so keep talking to her about it :) It doesn't sound like she's interested in you for anything more though.
 
It is a hard situation I know but u should really talk to her let her know how she fills if she's still trying to kiss u and stuff she might have the same fillings but feel about what you all did she probably wanted a relationship before the sex so just talk to her.
 
you did not mention that you like her or not, but i thing you like her ... so you have to tell her the Truth and then give her some time to think about what you have told ... everything will be fine... trust me as a friend...
 
it just happened...just keep doing your thing...if a moment comes up again and you want to take it...go for it.
 
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