I found recently that my gf lied to me bout her past and she had sex with some...

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...5-6 guys b4? I met this grl some 3 mnths back through a common friend and we started chattin and became gud frns.After chattin for some 10 days we decided to meet and she came to my house and we had sex fr the frst time.
After dat we had sex regularly some 2-3 times a day.She told she loves me a lot and cannot stay wdout me.Once we had a fight and wen i told i gonna leave her, she cut her hands with blade,I ws so pissd off and scared as I js told her dat i will leave her in a fit of rage.Then i found out that she had cut her hands many times in past.
Recently i found out that she had sex previously wd some 6 guys and she neva told m bout all this,she always told me shes a virgin and i am the frst one who touched her.
But now wen i found out with many proofs, she agreed that she had done with some 6 guys in past.
I even found out that ws done in a span of 1year and she had sex wd them some 500 times.
Imagining all this is killing me,i told her that I cannot continue this relationship any more, then she is threatning me that she will kill herself..................She tells she neva lovd anyone more den me and cries a lot.
Wat shld i do???Is she worth to be trusted
I am 25 and she is 23
She told me she ws searchin for true love and dats wy she had those relnships.She told me dat those guys cheated on her and she neva got true love.
 
bringing up the past is very straining on a relationship. it does not matter about her past who she was sexually active with as long as you haven't gotten an std from her. let the past be the past and don't bring it into the future unless it's a nice memory. my husband and i wouldn't have even gotten married if he was worried about my past relationships. if you care about her, you will let her past be her past and not bring it up anymore. As for her cutting herself, she needs help and not by you, by a therapist.
 
Dude she has serious issues, and I know that its the past but cutting her hands with a blade is extreme. She is looking for love and for someone to take away her pain. Im sorry man but your not Jesus. She needs a divine intervention from heaven and a touch of the heavenly father. If she cut hands many times before and still living then she is just using this to keep guys in her life. You need to stay far away from her and work on yoursself. I know it may be hard. Best Wishes.
 
First of all your 25 and your language is that of a 14 year old. Words like dat and neva are not for you. You've out grown them! It's a sign of immaturity.

Anyway, back to your issue. Look. I don't know how to say this but your girl, she's a head case. She obviously has been traumatized by something in her past probably at a very young age that she hasn't worked through. "Cutting" is very common among females with these kind of issues. Along with all this comes constant lying. She seeks approval so she and she gains it by lying.

In all reality this girl needs to learn to lover herself before she can even begin to love you. She needs to work through her past. Maybe you can find out what this traumatizing experience was and help her, but seriously nothing will be right until deals with it.

Now as for you, look buddy this girl had a life before you came along that's just reality. You need to big a boy and get over the fact she has had sex before! Lol, dude were u a virgin? yes, she lied, it's wrong, it sucks, but seriously this is not all that shocking. The number of times she had sex or who she had sex with before you doesn't mean anything. As long as she is faithful to you.
 
ok, Im just gonna tell you what I think and you think what you are going to do.

what concerns me: you chat for 10 days just chat and you had sex the first day you met? for that you should know that she didnt just have sex with you, just like she did it fast with you she might have done it with several other guys.

The part of cutting herself with a blade I dont know what to tell you I think she just tell you that she loves you because she is scared(as I told you thats what I think Im not always right).

So, I really think you should leave her in a normal way, make sure she doesnt kill herself, try talking to her. You are 25, I asume you are very mature and all that you just try to make a good decision.

Good luck, hope that helped
 
Regardless of whether you want to stay in a relationship with her or not she has a problem.

Cutting herself is not normal thing to do. If you care at all for her or her welfare try and get her some help for this problem.

It is a difficult situation and you should not feel pressured to stay with her because she is threatening to harm herself. Perhaps you could see a doctor about this problem she has and how it is affecting you.

I would like to say that your answer would come from this forum but this is quite serious and you really need some professional help. It is not something you should try and do yourself, you seem like a genuine guy and it would be terrible if you did break up with her and she ended up harming herself badly or worse, as you said, kill herself.

I know just from what you have said that you would be deeply affected if she did do something like that. It is not fair on you that she has done this but at least if you get her some help you can feel good that you did all you could for her even if the two of you do not stay together.

It is hard to trust anyone who uses threats to get what they want.

Good Luck.
 
10 days after talking to her, you decide to meet, and you have sex? She told you that she was a virgin during these 10 days that you talked to her? Virgins don't have sex with a guy they have talked to for 10 days and just met. Wake up!

She did lie to you and it was easy to do. I can't imagine telling someone I was a virgin then sacking them the first time I see them face to face. WTH? However, her past is her past. Have you had sex with other women? Did you share the actual number with her? Did you loose your virginity to her? If she felt that she had to hide that she had a sexual past from you in the beginning, she may have been ashamed. Now that you have been together for a little while, it is best that the truth about it comes out.

She loves you more than she has ever loved anyone? Of course, you are the only one that questions whether or not to stay in a relationship over trust issues with a psychopath. You look past her crazy, for the trustworthiness.

Yes, she is a sick little puppy. Let her friends or family know what she is doing and that she has a history of it. Then, ask someone to go with you, as her moral support, and end it. Is she trustworthy?...Who the hell cares! She is a ticking time bomb that will threaten to hurt herself when and if things aren't the way she wants them to be. Is that what you want? Do you want to be in a relationship with someone that says you are my everything and if you don't love me the way I want to be loved I am gonna hurt myself?

Once you do end it, end it for good. Don't call to check up on her. Don't answer her phone calls. Don't email with her. Be done with her! If she does hurt herself or kills herself, know that she was sick before you ever came into the picture. You are not the best man in the world that any woman should kill herself without. You are just a man. You did not do this damage. If you stay in this relationship and allow these things or threats you are becoming an accomplice to this illness.

Once you are back in the market for a girlfriend, get to know them a little better before hopping into the sack with her. If she is into having sex the first time that she meets you, chances are, she is not a virgin. Also, tell this common friend thanks but no thanks in the future when it comes to setting you up.
 
She is holding you hostage by threatening you with killing herself. makeing you feel responsible for her. this is a standard ploy. You cannot be held responsible for someone committing suicide.

What you need to do is inform the police that this woman is threatening to commit suicide and let them handle it. you need to get away from this chick.

LD
 
She is holding you hostage by threatening you with killing herself. makeing you feel responsible for her. this is a standard ploy. You cannot be held responsible for someone committing suicide.

What you need to do is inform the police that this woman is threatening to commit suicide and let them handle it. you need to get away from this chick.

LD
 
The past is the past...HOWEVER, cutting is BAD NEWS. This girls sounds like she needs to talk to a professional about how to better deal with anger/stress. Cutting is not a good thing to do to yourself and threats of suicide are indicative of a much deeper rooted issue than you guys fighting.

For her: therapy. Stop cutting. Find a better way to handle life's frustrations.

For you: decide within yourself to get over it and pursue a happy future with this girl, or decide you can't and move on. If she is suicidal, she will most likely be suicidal whether you stay or go. Staying in a relationship based on threats will never end well.
 
shes mental man
she a lunatic no jk
girls like this are extremely desperate
u NEED to get right away ffrom her
for ur own safety ur life will be so so so much better
 
that's hard and i know it hurts so bad enough to make you sick but how many people she has slept with shouldn't matter its what she doing now and that she loves you that counts. as far as cutting her self goes she needs help.
tell her to get help, if she loves you so much she wont want to see you upset by HER actions. if she doesnt get help herself then she obviously doesn't love you as much as she said, so get the help for her
 
Uh, no...she has a problem and needs help! Don't wait around to figure out if you "love her or not" because she is clearly in no position to be in any kind of relationship. I promise you if you continue on with her because you're afraid of what she'll do if you don't, you're just digging yourself a hole you won't be able to get out of. Get out now while you still can!
 
that's hard and i know it hurts so bad enough to make you sick but how many people she has slept with shouldn't matter its what she doing now and that she loves you that counts. as far as cutting her self goes she needs help.
tell her to get help, if she loves you so much she wont want to see you upset by HER actions. if she doesnt get help herself then she obviously doesn't love you as much as she said, so get the help for her
 
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