I feel empty.

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guitarplayer180

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So half an hour ago in class I was listening to this guy talking to the girls next to us, pouring out all his feelings about what kind of girls he likes, how he never actually liked any of the girls he's dated and wants a girl that won't like him for what he shows on the surface. And stuff. Meanwhile I'm sitting there not doing work, as usual, playing a flash game by myself because I just really couldn't agree with what he was saying. Only afterwards I felt empty and un-wanted, and it's now that I realize it's because I don't agree with him on girls at all, but at the time I was really confused...

To give you some perspective, this guy is like the Mr Popular smiley smiley guy that everyone likes, and he was just spilling his guts out, unlike what he's normally like. So will I feel this empty everytime I quietly disagree? Cuz that's such a sucky feeling that I feel that I either need to be a pussy and suck up to everyone or I should be brave and strongly disagree.
 
I have no idea what you're trying to say in that last paragraph.

Most "popular people" fake their surface. Some act like snobby jerks, when they're actually really nice people. Some act like they like football, wearing gay super tight shirts, and doing bad in school.

I don't understand why this would make you feel bad though?
 
Quietly disagreeing is one of the most unsatisfying things in the world, on the surface. But you can avoid a whole heap of trouble without selling yourself out (i.e., kissing ass). So if you can't agree but can't (or don't want to) disagree, keeping your mouth shut is the best option.

You'll learn to like it. Especially when you definitely SHOULD be saying something, quietly disagreeing can be powerful.
 
no no no, you got it all wrong, the girl doesnt get pregnant if you pull out and you don't get aids if you do the missionary position(everyone knows that it is gods position)
 
This guy was just talking. That does not mean you should avoid beign with the ones you like. He's basically saying he doesn't want shallow girls in his life. He wants someone that can like him for the real him. Why feel empty over that statement. Wouldn't you like someone who likes you for who you really are and not for shallow purposes? You see some nice guy and start talking to him and you like what you hear. so far that's just surface stuff. But if you wanted to get to know the guy for who he is, you have to ask questions about him. Questions about what he likes and dislikes, about things he does, about what makes him who he is. You need to find a common ground, something you both enjoy and then try to do that thing together. What I mean is maybe he likes playing consoles games, the same ones you like. Then go play them together. What I mean is really get to know someone. You are findind out if you and a guy you like are compatable on a level beyond looks and outward attitudes. That's what that guy was talking about. He wants a girl that will get to know him and like him that way.
 
Well, you sound gay.

If you don't feel like voicing the fact that you don't agree with him, don't. I don't know why that would make you feel so weird. If you want to openly say that you think he's wrong and can't, this site probably isn't right for you. Just go after girls the way you want to and let Mr. Happy-go-Lucky do his own shit.
 
Sounds to me your just a jealous crying bitch, MAN UP

BTW he wasnt spilling his guts he was manipulating the girls, i did it back in high school as well. girls always wanna be the one that made that guy change and make him feel like they really gort to know him

when in reality he could give a fuck less what ever needs to be said to get in thier pants is what is said, i was the same way


im in my 4th year of college now and i still havent changed

MAN UP BITCH, you want those girls, stick up to his bitch ass make him look weak, not like hes gonna kill you, he might beat your ass but getting your ass beat is better then sitting there, facing your fears will get you respect, and you WILL feel better about your self
 
Whenever I overhear a conversation (I know it's rude but sometimes unavoidable) between a guy and a girl, I laugh on the inside. Not at the guy, but the girl because he figured out what the girl wants to hear and is using it to get into her pants. I don't even know the guy, but I bet he always has a hot girlfriend. Don't be down on yourself because others know how to "play the game". Just be real and you'll hook up with a real woman. "I want a woman to love the real me." Who doesn't? He is basically telling her the same thing that she wants in a man. Hook, line, and sinker.
 
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