I confused about my sexuality, again-_-?

Haley B

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it's been a year since i've had my first "real" girl crush, i guess you could say. right after it happened i didn't believe that i liked her and i thought it was just me being interested in her as a person. for a while i told myself that i was straight and that i didn't like girls but even though i still thought about guys a lot, girls were always in the back of my mind. after a while i just accepted the thoughts i had about girls and just let them come when they did, and ever since then my affection towards girls has grown drastically. it's only been almost a year and they're all i think about. when i grew up i was never the type of girl who would drool over a man's body. i don't like muscles and i've never really cared about dick, but i've definitely been attracted to guys before. i like the male body, but i've never been crazy about it. the only thing that i like physically about a guy is his hair and face.

the only thing is that like i said before, my affection toward men has been decreasing. every time i picture myself with a man, it doesn't feel as right as it used to. i don't really have any desire to date a man or marry one even though i still believe it's possible that that could happen. i'm not saying i'll never find a man attractive again but i've rarely found myself interested in straight sex or anything relating to men sexually.

ever time i tell someone this story they all say that when i know what i am, i'll know. and i strongly believe that, but what do you people think?

people usually say i'm bi(but i don't feel comfortable with "bisexual"), or lesbianism, but sometimes i worry that it's just a phase. i enjoy my new found love for women, so i don't want it to go away, because even though i'm confused, i know for sure that the idea of being with a man just seems boring now. sometimes i feel great about it, but other times i don't. sometimes i feel as if the only reason why i'm feeling these things is because i've been so exposed to it in this short period of time that i'm just going through a phase. i do remember times when i'd been interested in women in the past, but i've never even dated anyone so it's kind of hard to back it up...

do you think it's just my hormones acting up? has this situation happened to any one else? am i just sick of guys?
thankyou for the answers, they did help:)
i don't really care if i never like men again, so i'm not worried about that, i just wish i could know for sure that i like girls and be sure about my sexuality. i guess time is the only answer to that. do people usually realize things like this during puberty even if they don't remember having DISTINCT roots to it. oh and btw, i don't want it to be a phase. i guess i really do like girls cause usually when people are straight they want the feeling to go away and it is usually a phase but with me i'm not afraid of it, i just think it's weird that my attraction towards men has gone down so fast...

oh and yes, for the person who said that they're going through this too, i DOES suck..
 
First off, appreciation is not the same thing as attraction. Knowing someone is beautiful is not the same thing as wanting to be with them sexually. Only you can really figure out if what you're experiencing is attraction, or something else. But just remember, it's not knowing that someone is good looking that makes you attracted to them, it's how those good looks make you feel.
 
It isn't your hormones probably. It's probably the sexual orientation in your genes acting up because your maturing and your body and mind keeps saying that you need to know your orientation so you know who your going to get married to and things like that. It happens to a lot of people usually and some people consider it a phase but it's sort of permanent. Unless something sparks your interest in men again, you will continue to be attracted to women.

Sorry if this isn't much help.... But, good luck choosing between men and women! [Sorry]
 
well to me its simple your bi. you cant just pick one gender. I think you feel like i either have to like boys or girls but i dont want to be stuck in the middle. If you are attracted to guys and girls then your obviously Bi. Its not your homones. just follow what you feel is right. if you like a girl go with it and same for a boy. and you end up loving both or picking a side.
 
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