I cheated on my husband in the worst of circumstances. Would a confession help at...

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Sam J

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I'm sorry to hear that. People make mistakes. We learn from those mistakes. A part of me says you should tell him. I'm not sure how understanding your husband is. If he's one of those who get upset fast and holds a grudge then keep it to yourself. If he loves you and you love him and he can see how truly sorry you are then you should tell him. Either way it will come out because the burden will be too much to bear. It just depends when you think the time is right. Just remember the longer you wait the worse it can get because he will think you would have done it many more times before even if you haven't he won't believe you because you have kept this from him and lied about it. So tell him. Good luck and let me know what happens.

Ps. I'm not trying to be a preacher because I'm not much of a church goer but I believe in God and if you ask for forgiveness then God forgives you :)
 
...all? Two weeks ago my closest friend died of cancer. She had only been ill a few months, sadly by the time she was diagnosed it was already too late to do much for her.As she has hardly any family her brother and I nursed her until she had to go into a hospice. We became very close through this experience and gave each other a lot of support. Inevitably she died, the funeral was last friday. Afterwards her brother was extremely distressed and insisted he wanted to spend the night at her house among her stuff. My lovely, kind, trusting husband sent me after him to make sure he was ok. Comfort turned to something else and we had sex. It was very intense and passionate but totally wrong. My husband has been my rock throughout my friend's illness and had watched our kids night after night without complaint so I could care for my friend. Why have I done such a low down thing to a man that really doesn't deserve it. He thinks I am acting strange due to grief and being nicer than ever which is destroying me. I have spoken to my friend's brother who is equally mortified and it won't be happening again but I hate being a liar and a cheat. Should I tell all to my husband?
 
If you still want to be with your husband than don't tell him it will only make you feel better getting it off your chest and make him feel horrible instead you should live with the horrible thing you did to him and treat him better and of course don't see that guy ever again or talk nothing if you really are dedicated to your husband.............I think sometimes things are better left unsaid.......I kissed another man and told my boyfriend about because I couldn't live with the guilt he has somewhat forgiven me but I know sometimes he really hates me for it and it has strained our relationship greatly I wish I never told him he actually told me he would have rather not known and pretty much said what I told you to live with guilt.
 
If you still want to be with your husband than don't tell him it will only make you feel better getting it off your chest and make him feel horrible instead you should live with the horrible thing you did to him and treat him better and of course don't see that guy ever again or talk nothing if you really are dedicated to your husband.............I think sometimes things are better left unsaid.......I kissed another man and told my boyfriend about because I couldn't live with the guilt he has somewhat forgiven me but I know sometimes he really hates me for it and it has strained our relationship greatly I wish I never told him he actually told me he would have rather not known and pretty much said what I told you to live with guilt.
 
Why would you be telling him, to make yourself feel better as the guilt is making you feel bad. That is I'm afraid the price you have to pay. Do you really want to hurt a man who is as wonderful as you make him out to be. Would that really be fair. I think in this instance the best course is to learn to live with it and say nothing just make sure you never do anything like that again, though I don't think you will. Grief does make us do funny things.
 
Why would you be telling him, to make yourself feel better as the guilt is making you feel bad. That is I'm afraid the price you have to pay. Do you really want to hurt a man who is as wonderful as you make him out to be. Would that really be fair. I think in this instance the best course is to learn to live with it and say nothing just make sure you never do anything like that again, though I don't think you will. Grief does make us do funny things.
 
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