I can do whatever I want, and you can't fucking stop me

I can sum this up in three words
You are immature.

My friend goes to school from 9 am in the morning to 9pm at night 4 days a week and Works 30 hour part time job on top of that ... doesn't get help with rent, food, car insurance, or any aid from his family... and he is lucky if he gets to eat everyday and your whinning about being overloaded.

DAMN. I hope they kick you to the dorms, I hope they stop paying your bills and you can learn how tuff life gets.
 
skully, if it were me (and many years ago, it was)....

I would just simply move out. That's what I did. I went to school and worked full time both for a while. It was extremely difficult and exhausting, but...I did it. And you can too. Trust me. Also, I would NOT change that I did that for anything. It's only for a short while that you'll have to do school AND work BOTH....and when it's done, you can say you did it!

It's just really stressful to be somewhere between teenager and adult. I know it really sucks. Maybe if you were on your own and had your freedom, it would take THAT stress off (of their rules and shit), but it will add other stresses too. You just have to decide which SET of stresses will bother you least and GO FOR IT.

Either way...it's not forever. Soon enough you'll have loads of freedom and then not much time to enjoy any of it. :sad:

My own post is depressing me. I'm out.
 
I can't help but think that you shoulder some of the responsibility in this situation. I mean, as obsessive/crazy as my mother is, she gives me my space. She used to be up in my face when I sucked at life. But that's because she respects me according to what I do, and what I have proven myself capable of.

Someone should put you in a wooden crate and send you to an orphanage Honduras so you can hack out your own living for awhile.
 
The worst thing about parents is the double standards. My mum always runs a bath and then lets it go cold and runs another one.

If I'm not in the bath after five minutes of running it she goes "KATHERIIIIIIIIINE, your BATHS getting COOOOOOOOOOOOOOLD, don't let it go COLD, thats a WASTE"

GAH!:sword:
 
Yeah, I agree, that would be pretty annoying, but at the same time, if the parents are paying for everything....they sort of have the right to waste it if THEY want to (although that's really stupid). :D
 
skully, ignore the people who are sassing you about being immature and disrespectful.

move out, darling.

I know exactly what you're talking about. that headphone scene you described has happened to me almost exactly- I was in my room doing my homework, and since my parents don't like my music and I need it on to cancel out the noise my brothers make when they're screaming, I put headphones on...which are often so loud I can't hear when someone comes into my room and calls my name.

one day my dad just freaked out and ripped my headphones out of my ears and started yelling at me, telling me that if he ever saw me with them in again he would beat the shit out of me.

my family's from iran so there are many different "rules for respect" that aren't exactly followed in most american households.

granted that my father is an abusive physcopath who wants nothing to do with me besides that which makes him look good in public, he has clothed me, fed me, and kept a roof over my head...and for that, I do owe him.

and I show him everyday by keeping my mouth shut, staying out of sight, and repeating the words he has taught me to say when he leaves/comes home- like a fucking robot. otherwise, we never speak.

that is, unless, he is "disciplining" me.

oh dear!!

but this isn't about me! >__<

sorry.

uhh...

essentially- I can't wait until I go to school far far away and don't have to deal with HIS ridiculous rules.

I suggest you move out ASAP.
 
Yea, parents can be a real bitch sometimes, but it's their job. It seems as if they've raised a decent child, and are continuing to do so, but obviously not in the right fashion. Not letting you see your friends, and your in college, is just fucking retarted. How about you step it up a notch by getting like close to a 4.0 in college, and rub it in your parents( or just your moms ) faces and say, "Now hop off my fucking nuts!" Then, they/she couldnt say shit to you because you're fucking owning school, so they/she have/has to give you some sort of freedom then...
 
It sounds to me like your mom just doesn't want you to grow up yet man. You probably should move into the dorms and spread your wings a bit.

Sit her down and explain to her that you are not a little boy anymore, that you love and respect her, but that you feel that it's time to be in charge of your own life.

College is a time of learning, hard work, and having a hell of a LOT of fun. I got my best grades in school when I was studying and playing in equal ammounts. You just have to find a good balance and it sounds to me like you mom is causing a big imbalance.
 
UPDATE:


So, I sat down and talked to my parents. I've decided to stay in a dorm for the next quarter, and I'll be alone in an apartment from june.

For everyone who said I'm immature and don't show any respect, you don't know me. I respect my parents, that doesn't mean they can make me do something I don't want.

I'm also allowed to do whatever I want as long as its not on a monday-wednesday, and I come back home before 4 am ( or sleep over).
 
Glad to see someone working things out with their parents. Good for you.

Respect: I'm not sure where people get the idea that you owe your parents respect because they birthed you. My father now gets respect, but it's because he earned it from me. That took a lot of work on both our parts..20 years worth, if I figure correctly.
I'm all for the idea that if someone else is paying for everything, then you respect everything that you are using of theirs. As far as the person themself, that adult doesn't get respect because they are a parent. Anyone can fuck. It doesn't make you a good person. Respect that which deserves respect and be honest to those that don't.

On the other hand, it is rare to find a teen who understand what deserves his or her respect.
 
I've seen stricter parents. Yesterday I went to my friend's house and he got yelled at for whispering something to his mom while she was on the phone talking to one of her friends. It was just a suttle "do i leave the pizza on the cardbpard in the oven?"

His dad made him write her a note on a piece of paper.

Then he showed it to her and shes like "Oh hold on, Linda...do i leave the pizza on the cardboard? how dumb are you? put it on the pizza stone"

And then he wanted to know for how many minutes. Back to the notepad.

Then his dad yelled at him for letting the dog outside.

Then we were playing Forza motorsport on his xbox and his mom comes in and says "I DONT WANT YOU GUYS TO BE PLAYING THAT ALL DAY!"

We decided from now on he goes over to my house. We only went to his because he has a heated pool.
 
Man you have to be respectful towards your parents I mean honestly name one person that would work there asses off to provide food for you and a house?
 
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