Riley's Mommy - 09.04.09.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and have a daughter together that is almost 1. I have to admit we rushed into our relationship quickly but we do have a close and loving relationship. Since our daughter was born things have been extremely downhill. He works in the trades as an apprentice and gets laid off a lot (it comes with being in the trades I guess) and we always seem to be struggling to make ends meet. Now we don't have the option to live under our parents roofs with our daughter and we have more bills than I could ever imagine paying at my age. Money seems to be a huge issue and he can't seem to keep a job while I cant seem to get a job. I am also trying to finish school which is a HUGE stress in my life and I cant seem to keep my weight under control no matter how hard I try and how well I eat I still seem to have this extra 50lbs.
I know I personally have a lot of inner battles and I know I take it out on him sometimes but he is no perfect soul himself. As much as he does a lot with our daughter like changing her and feeding her he cant seem to comprehend that every meal of hers can not be a bottle. Every time she gets hungry he is straight to making a bottle. She's almost a year old!!! A bottle!!! That's for bed time and in between meals!! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!! It's sooo lazyy! He never gives her a bath, pure laziness and complains when he has to the dishes, ONCE A DAY! Like common your at home not at work! I have to do the dishes once a day aswell and vaccume the hole house and clean the house plus feed everyone! All he does is play his STUPID VIDEO GAME!!!!!! I haattee his video game! I want to break it. He plays for HOURS a day and wont stop unless we go out somewhere. So I try to keep us doing stuff like going out places but money only goes for so long.
Anyways, we always argue. The last year has been nothing but arguing not like little arguments here and there like one big argument everyday that usually ends in us either basically breaking up or him or I leaving for an hour or more.
I don't know what to do anymore. I needed time to vent, so I thank you for that but I also need help. I don't want to argue anymore. I want a happy, healthy relationship that we can both enjoy our time together as well as enjoying our time with our daughter while she is still young. I feel like we have wasted the last year arguing.
I have talked to our family doctor more than once about our issues and it doesn't seem to go anywhere I ask for therapy referrals, anger management referrals, marriage counselling and she just does not seem to want to listen!
help.
I know I personally have a lot of inner battles and I know I take it out on him sometimes but he is no perfect soul himself. As much as he does a lot with our daughter like changing her and feeding her he cant seem to comprehend that every meal of hers can not be a bottle. Every time she gets hungry he is straight to making a bottle. She's almost a year old!!! A bottle!!! That's for bed time and in between meals!! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY!! It's sooo lazyy! He never gives her a bath, pure laziness and complains when he has to the dishes, ONCE A DAY! Like common your at home not at work! I have to do the dishes once a day aswell and vaccume the hole house and clean the house plus feed everyone! All he does is play his STUPID VIDEO GAME!!!!!! I haattee his video game! I want to break it. He plays for HOURS a day and wont stop unless we go out somewhere. So I try to keep us doing stuff like going out places but money only goes for so long.
Anyways, we always argue. The last year has been nothing but arguing not like little arguments here and there like one big argument everyday that usually ends in us either basically breaking up or him or I leaving for an hour or more.
I don't know what to do anymore. I needed time to vent, so I thank you for that but I also need help. I don't want to argue anymore. I want a happy, healthy relationship that we can both enjoy our time together as well as enjoying our time with our daughter while she is still young. I feel like we have wasted the last year arguing.
I have talked to our family doctor more than once about our issues and it doesn't seem to go anywhere I ask for therapy referrals, anger management referrals, marriage counselling and she just does not seem to want to listen!
help.