I am married, but our sex life is bad. I have started cheating with a man who is also...

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Sheri

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There are no feelings involved because you are a heartless, cruel slu*! DRAWBACK?? Are you for real?? You are DESTROYING your life and your families lives with your incredibly selfish behavior! You are clearly not thinking about anyone but yourself and that is disgusting! You have NO idea how devastating your actions are to EVERYONE! You WILL regret this for the rest of your life and I hope your husband finds out and dumps your lying, cheating, skank a**!! SHAME ON YOU!!
 
...taken, is this so bad? We both know we are not going to leave our partners, we know there are no feelings involved.I feel like this adventure will in fact help my sex life with my husband , because even thinking about the other guy gets me wet and ill have better sex with my husband. Also we fight so much, but if im satisfied by the other guy, i will be nicer to the husband. any one agree, disagree? thinks there may be a draw back?
I do love my husband and thats why i dont want to end the marriage, but women also need to be pleased! and he does not please me , when i try ti tell him what does he gets angry at me as if im insulting his performance. I get angry often because im sexually frustrated. The affair has only happened twice, but ive already seen a change where im not as angry with him. Im not trying to justify anything, i know cheating isnt right duh! but im trying to satisfy myself and not end my marriage. I love him and i want to be with him but i also need to be satisfied...i am human!
 
Ummm.. I think the drawback is that you are both married and not married to each other! You need to stop! You need to figure out how to get the spark back with your husband! Stop your affair! NOW!
 
Dont you love your husband? Why would you do that to him? How would you feel if he was doing the same? Picture him having sex with another woman..doesn't that hurt you? If it doesn't, you don't love him and you need to end the marriage.

EDIT: And wow, would you expect him to cheat on you if he wasn't being satisfied? Its called communication. Tell him what you like and what you don't. That is NO excuse to cheat.
 
It's about as bad as punching someone's kid in the mouth for crying in public. Cheating is never justified. Nothing good comes out it whatsoever, for you, the person you're cheating with, or the person you're cheating on. Everyone loses.
 
Instead of making up so many reasons why it's better if you cheat on your husband, why don't you stop lying to yourself and realize that it's wrong and there's no going around that. Your husband would be very hurt if he knew that you went to this alternative instead of talking about this issue of your marriage together. I think you know that, which is why you're trying to justify yourself.
 
Ya thats bad, either need to leave your husband and get with other guy, or tell your husband... I mean if i was your husband I wouldnt want to have sex with you after your thinking bout this other guy... its kinda mean
 
You don't turn outside of the marriage to resolve problems within the marriage. Your thinking that this is actually good for your marriage is simply a flawed rationalization designed to salve your guilty conscience.
Here's a test that will tell you if I am right or not.
If your behaviour is so good for your marriage and lovemaking with your husband, then your husband will agree right? So you'll tell him, right?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

What you have here is a simple problem with unsatisfying sex in your marriage, it happens to couples all of the time.
So now you have taken a simple problem, and complicated it right off the charts by cheating. Two wrongs don't make a right.

If you are being honest with yourself, and the only problem in your marriage besides you cheating is the sex, then stop cheating and work on ways to improve the sex with your husband and keep your marriage healthy.

Otherwise grow up, this is wrong any way you slice it, and you know it.
 
I think your marriage will eventually fall apart. You can only place all your affection on one person. On the positive, I say go for it, do what makes you happy.
 
if you are both VERY discreet and keep it to yourselfs,,dont be seen together in public etc,and lay some ground rules,,including NO emotional stuff,it should be ok if not right
 
They say spice is the variety of life and I think that the excitement you get can not be replaced due to normal life circumstances. Make it hot to keep it hot and be careful because you are playing with fire.

Sweet Mildred is my leader...crawl into her playpen with me
 
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