i am exactly 31 weeks pregnant and i have no sex drive what so ever...?

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like i do not even get "moist" any more and when i do no matter what position we are in it hurts because i am tight and it seems like it is tighter now then before i got pregnant. i am doing my best at helping the hubby out but we are both tired of me having no sex drive. I am wondering if it will come back before having my daughter or if it will come back after wards and is it normal to not have any sex drive at all?? I think part of my problem is, is that i just feel so fat and ugly right now is that also normal?
I am just tired of not being able to do anything to help the hubby out more as he has a high sex drive and when ever we are around each other he is ready to go in like 3 minutes flat as for me it takes for ever and then it just goes away for no reason.
this might be tmi but we do do oral and its starting to get old as last month for a week straight i was ready to go and as soon as he walked through the door we were in the bedroom but it went away, he does understand i just feel so bad about it as i know there is nothing i can do. we are both ready for this pregnancy to be over so i am not in pain any more and so we can go back to having sex without pain or me not enjoying it as some of the time i do it so he can get pleased as he is a 20 yr old male
 
its normal, but some women are the opposite. Unfortunately i was the same way when i was pregnant. I had completely no sex drive at all. And honestly mine has never come back yet and my son is almost 17 months. And i felt fat and ugly as well so those feelings are normal too. Plus having sex when i was pregnant was so uncomfortable not many positions you can do with a big belly
 
Everything you've described is normal. I feel your pain. I'm 25 weeks (almost 26) and I feel swollen down there. You know that tight feeling you get when your feet get swollen? Yeah, I have that down there. I still get wet, but sex is becoming extremely uncomfortable. I feel my sex-drive just taking a nose dive. Pretty much the only reason we're still having sex (though I don't tell him this) is because I feel bad. I know he still has a drive, and I can't imagine putting him through the next 15 weeks of pregnancy and 6-8 weeks after birth with NO sex whatsoever.

It's also to feel ugly and fat, too. I'm not feeling ugly yet, but I definitely feel fat. My honey and I tried curling up on the couch today like we used to do, but my baby bump hung out over the edge of the couch and I couldn't even sit up without help afterwards. I felt like a beach whale!!!

So yes, everything you're feeling (or not feeling) is completely normal.

I don't know if your sex drive will come back any time soon. With all the changes going on in your vagina I doubt it'll come back, but you never know.

Good luck, hon!
 
Unfortuantely,with some women,that happens. I know with me,being pregnant,I'm ready to go all the time,that's how I was when I was pregnant with my daughter too lol. I would say if you want to do something for him,maybe think on oral,something along those lines if you aren't feeling in the mood for sex.
 
Completely normal!! and yes it should come back! I am in exactly like you. I am almost 20 weeks and feel extremely guilty because I have absolutely no desire! Poor hubby...
 
OMG completely normal. You may not get your sex drive back for a while, not even after your baby is here. It takes time for your body and hormones to go back to normal. Some women it happens pretty fast and some it doesn't happen for month. If you are still wanting to have sex i would try some ky and some foreplay. It might help bring something back. The whole feeling fat thing is also normal. Sometimes you just have to block out that your big, your not fat its a baby in there, i know easier said then done. It does get easier, but don't expect you to be normal once the baby is here, it takes time. Just be patient it'll happen, just explain to hubby what is going on and if he can be supportive of your emotions right now. It is very frustrating. Also the feelings of it just going away is also normal. Try not to be to hard on yourself. Your body is going through a lot of changes now. I have a husband that is the same, so i know exactly what you mean. Good Luck
 
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