I am embarassed when it comes to getting intimate with my bf..?

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jennifer d

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well i am 22 years old and i have a boyfriend, but i cant seem to relax when it comes to sex. i am a virgin by the way. theres the whole pain thing that i cant seem to swallow and also i cant imagine getting naked in front of someone. i do have low self esteem and i am in the process of losing weight( lost 24 pounds 30 left lol) even if i do lose all the weight and become confident i still dont see my self doing it.. i would probably laugh or something.. is this normal for a girl my age? i mean i do have desires and get wet and all.. but its the whole naked thing with someone that bugs me although i do love my boyfriend.
 
Ok there are several things going on here. firstly you have a low self esteem and you are losing weight, you are doing great, you need to be ready to have sex, but right now you are not. focus on losing the weight, get down to your goal, then your self esteem will increase, and you will be feeling good about yourself.the pain thing is not really a biggie, because if you use tampons, chances are your hymen is already broken.you can satisfy your desires by masturbating you do not need a man. If he is a gentleman he will wait until you are ready. Don't be forced into having sex if you are not ready, and right now it does not look to me as though you are
 
Dont worry! When the time comes and you're ready you'll feel comfortable. Don't stress out over it! You'll look back at this and wonder why you felt this way because everyone does. You could always talk to your bf about it & if he really likes you and cares about you he'll understand. I reccomend you wait until you're married to have sex because then you'll have nothing to be afraid or to be concerned about in the near future bc if you're married you'll def know he really loves you & doesn't care about your looks.
 
Dont worry! When the time comes and you're ready you'll feel comfortable. Don't stress out over it! You'll look back at this and wonder why you felt this way because everyone does. You could always talk to your bf about it & if he really likes you and cares about you he'll understand. I reccomend you wait until you're married to have sex because then you'll have nothing to be afraid or to be concerned about in the near future bc if you're married you'll def know he really loves you & doesn't care about your looks.
 
Ok there are several things going on here. firstly you have a low self esteem and you are losing weight, you are doing great, you need to be ready to have sex, but right now you are not. focus on losing the weight, get down to your goal, then your self esteem will increase, and you will be feeling good about yourself.the pain thing is not really a biggie, because if you use tampons, chances are your hymen is already broken.you can satisfy your desires by masturbating you do not need a man. If he is a gentleman he will wait until you are ready. Don't be forced into having sex if you are not ready, and right now it does not look to me as though you are
 
It's normal to be embarrassed the first time you try and get naked in front of someone. You just lack self confidence, build some of it. Make yourself look more beautiful. I didn't understand where you said there's the whole pain thing that you can't seem to swallow.
May be even after you get confident and gain self confidence, you wouldn't want to get naked. It takes time to allow somebody other than yourself to look at you naked. Just give it a more time and be a little slow.

Start with just caressing over clothes and then may be due to excitement you feel to get naked and have sex.
 
if your bf want to have sex with him ask him to wrute 10 reason why he want to have sex with
you i lstb vrginty when i was 16 that thati was with broke up the next day
if i was u wait till you met the right person
 
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